Has social media changed how you view someone?

posted 5 months ago in Relationships
Post # 31
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6867 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

Yes, most definitely. Honestly I really have become to dislike social media and if it wasn’t such an important tool for my business I honestly could easily delete it. When facebook came out I was already out of college and for years it was basically used for pictures of your dogs/kids and the occasionally funny thing. Now it’s literally NOTHING but political debate and hate. 

I have really become to dislike a lot of “friends” simply by seeing what they post on their social meida – and that comes from BOTH sides. The reason being is that no one is moderate anymore, and no one can be respectful about their opinions. My friends on the right are way far to the right, and my friends to the left are way far to the left. Even if there are things they agree with from the other side, they would NEVER admit to it and everything is always to the extreme.

Post # 32
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9543 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2014 - Chicago, IL

I’ve only read the OP, so sorry if someone already brought this up –  but as allies I see it as our duty to step up and put these racist/homophobic/xenophobic family members in their place. It is very hurtful to my friends of color and LGBTQ friends to see the hateful things my ignorant family would comment on my posts. I unfriended all racists in my family on facebook and cut them out of my real life. I always knew they were racists, but now that they have a platform I absolutely will not partake in that behavior. People need to start isolating them so they can see they are NOT the majority and their shitty opinions dont carry any power.

Post # 33
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484 posts
Helper bee

I voted for Trump and had 2 people I was close to call me a Nazi and subsequently unfriend me.

I see so many people on both sides posting fake news and angry statuses targeted at the other side. I used to engage, now I just unfriend.

Post # 34
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760 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016 - Wedgewood Las Vegas

whitecollarbee :  Ha, I’ve been called a Nazi too! And I’m Jewish!! 

Post # 35
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7179 posts
Busy Beekeeper

ariesscientist :  social media revealed to me that a cousin is a horribly bigoted personwho is also spiteful and mean. I always had kind of looked past the fact that she was ignorant and uneducated but I stopped having a relationship with her over things she said on social media. 

Post # 36
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1852 posts
Buzzing bee

ariesscientist :  Un add your uncle on facebook and distance yourself from him. I doubt he would be receptive or understanding if you talked to him about it. If he does reach out and ask why you un friended him I think you could let him know that his posts were offensive and hurtful and you no longer wanted to see them in your feed. Leave it at that. It isn’t your job to police him, but it is your right to have your life free of that hate. Consider that he did you a favor by showing his true colors. Now you can distance yourself and move on. Sorry this happened bee. I think this does happen often, and the worst part about it is usually people with these views can’t see reason and so there isn’t a way to speak to them about it at all. Usually your only choice is to cut them out. 

Post # 37
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

whitecollarbee :  wow! Don’t you know that you’re not *allowed* to have a differing opinion. Lol, one mind/one thought/one speak in the echo chambers. 

Don’t allow *anyone* to silence or make you retreat/hide with their bullying/name calling/false accusations..

Post # 38
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2017 - Courthouse

I think everyone knows at least one person who is an idiot on social media. 

There are the political idiots who either make ridiculous statuses or that repost memes that are clearly not factual information and can be researched by a quick 5 second Google search.

Then there are the MLM selling (usually women) who’s feeds are just ranting and raving about their products (ugh).

My personal favorite are people you would consider normal and then they post 24/7 on Facebook about their relationships. If a mutual friend who distant relative knows that you’ve broken up and got back together with your boyfriend, you should just break up! We don’t need to know your business! 

Post # 39
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972 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2019

sarathemermaid :  Yesss my SO’s best friend from childhood and his on-again-off-again girlfriend are always airing their dirty laundry on FB. It’ll be like, Saturday afternoon: pictures of them on a date to a local botanical garden, happy and so in love! Saturday night: each of them posting statuses about how selfish the other is, one of them is a cheater, one of them is moving out, one calling the other a bad parent, blah blah blah. They actually had someone call CPS on them for this crap (rightfully so).

Post # 40
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2017 - Courthouse

wineosaur :  Oh my lord that sounds terrible.

I know a girl who had a baby with her boyfriend. They were constantly fighting and they took to Facebook arguing about who worked harder. She stayed at home with the baby while the dad worked. It was like a full on war. They still fight constantly and I’m not even sure if they’re together. But of course they have another kid now *eyeroll*

Post # 41
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972 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2019

sarathemermaid :  Didn’t you know? Having a baby will 100% fix your relationship problems, I read it on Facebook. 

Post # 42
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685 posts
Busy bee

My husband and I quit Facebook a couple of years ago. We now do the old fashioned thing of calling friends and making plans with them. Since real life is our only opportunity to catch up, we end up actually meeting in person and having richer, more meaningful connections. Previously, having someone on our Facebook feed was almost a substitute for spending time with them, since we all assumed we knew what was going on in each others’ lives, albeit superficially. 

Post # 43
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9551 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

I used to think some people are idiots and now I know for sure.

Thanks Facebook!

Post # 44
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484 posts
Helper bee

steny03 :  must be your internalized… something? 🤔

mrstodd2bee :  thanks for the support! I tend to upset people on both sides, so I must be doing something right 😂

 

sarathemermaid :  wineosaur :  I have to confess, the dramatic “what had happened was” statuses are a guilty pleasure of mine. I know that’s so bad, but it’s like WB drama but with people I know

Post # 45
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2019

whitecollarbee :  Oh I totally agree, it’s like watching an episode of some trashy reality TV show lol.

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