Has the ring, hasn’t proposed

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

My Fiance had the ring for 4 months before he proposed (and I knew it). It was all paid for and the whole nine yards.  He just wanted to plan the perfect scenerio.  I agree with you it is hard and you do question yourself all the time.  But my best advice to you would be to try and relax.  All you will do is make yourself frustrated and your behavior will make him frustrated.  Easier said than done I know.  I’ve been there.  Good luck!

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I am in the same boat.  I got the ring yesterday, picked one out I liked since it was up to me (as I have to waear it LOL).  He hid it somewhere (I tried looking for it so I could sneak a few peaks but don’t know where he put it).  Not sure when he will give me the ring… not looking for a “proposal” since we’ve been together 13 years, have 3 kids and have been planning the wedding for 4 months now.  But he and I want the ring given under special circumstances so here I sit and wait anxious. 

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@85dancingmice:  Does he have the ring now, or is he paying it off first? Maybe he wants a really special proposal and is making plans. The ring is a good sign though!

Post # 6
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Mine had the ring for 1.5 years before he proposed. I know because we ordered it together, I had it shipped to his work and I received the delivery confirmation. Oh not to mention, he hid the box in the couch and when I went looking for the remote I found it. So I wouldn’t stress over when the proposal is going to come, it will happen when he is ready.

Post # 7
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Mine had the ring for 8 months before he finally proposed to me with it. It was paid off and everything, but he had the perfect airport proposal planned for when I returned from a trip, and the trip was a loooooong way away.

Just try to be patient because he probably has the whole thing planned perfectly and is waiting for his plan to play out. Smile

Post # 8
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Helper bee

Mine has had the ring for over 8 months now. I know because we share money. It sounds like you are going to get yours a lot sooner than mine.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

  I understand your frustration! Fiance got the diamond from my mom 9 months before he proposed! He officially got the setting about two months before he proposed. He was living out of town at the time and wanted to show it to his dad before he bought it. There were also other things going on around that time, including his brother’s wedding and a huge project for his master’s degree. He wanted to give enough time after his brother’s wedding, and he had to get his mind wrapped around the project.

  Just try to do whatever you can to keep your mind off of thinking about the ring! Much easier said than done, I know.

Post # 10
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Newbee

I’m so happy I read this post – I’m in the same boat. We had the ring made and he picked it up in early February. I’m going crazy.

I hope your happily ever after is soon, waiting is tough! 🙂

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

He had my ring for over 2 mos.  He was waiting on our vacation…. I’m sure he has some kind of plan 🙂

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Mines had mine since March!! Its completely frustrating and at times emotional… but you just have to wait and let them do what they have planned.

Post # 13
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Newbee

@cupcakeLove – cute name 🙂

Can I ask…have you said anything to your friends and family or are you keeping it secret until he proposes?? 

Post # 14
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Newbee

Oh sweetie. I know how you feel. Luckily for us, my grandmother, bless her heart, is giving us her wedding ring. The one my grandfather bought for her. SO HE HAS THE DAMN RING! But I feel like I’m waiting forever….. This is the WORST place I could be waiting. My grandmother needed help and so I came up to help her. Sucks because me and my SO are apart right now, but, it won’t be long until I come back and I swear to god, if it doesn’t happen soon…. I will go off the deep end.

Post # 15
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I know exactly how you feel.  I found my engagement ring in my boyfriend’s sock drawer about 3 months ago.  we just had our 3 year anniversary tonight, and nothin :(.  I couldn’t enjoy myself the whole night because I kept wondering if he would propose.  Good luck!

 

Post # 15
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Newbee

I know this thread is old but Im currently experiencing the same thing. My boyfriend and I went ring shopping a month ago. I picked out the ring, we walked out the store! Im becoming anxious! I know the ring is hid in the closet he has it sitting on the top shelf, knowing I wash, fold and hang clothes!!! We been together 7 years.

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