Post # 1
First let me give you some history…we gotg engaged on a sunday night, put a bid on a house on monday, and then found out our bid was accepted on tuesday. Now I am the only daughter, and the first to get married. Needless to say, my mother was ON FIRE about wedding planning.
We originally talked about doing an outdoor garden wedding in the spring…and my parents vetoed that idea for a variety of reasons. my reaction along the lines of “ok, you’re paying for this so i will let you choose where the reception will be”. After making that concession, I found out that it is the grooms family has a very strong opinion about us having a catholic ceremony. Now I am not particularly religious, but I said “ok, if its important to you, i will do it.” I wanted a band…he wants a DJ – we are getting a DJ. I don’t want to force my bridesmaids to buy expensive dresses they will never wear again, but according to both parents, they need to match.
Im sorry but…IM supposed to the bridezilla right? Getting everything i want..right?? I don’t even get to dance to the song Crazy Love – van morrison which I always dreamed i would because he thinks his grandmother will think its too sexual (WHAT? HUH???) And after all of these people getting their way, I haven’t gotten a single thing that I want….and what happened from there i never expected…
I dont want to plan this wedding. Its become this freak show of things that everyone else wants and everytime i begin to look at things, I cry. I want to throw it all away and run to some far away beach with my fiance and two friends and just get married. A drive through chapel in vegas…anything but this. How on earth did this happen…and how do I get back to being excited about my wedding?
Has this ever happened to anyone before?
Post # 3
@CPD: This has happened to me. Everyone has an opinion about the wedding and finds a reason why it has to be all about them. Originally I got in a fight with a certain -zilla that will remain nameless about having seafood served at my wedding. I am allergic–hives all over my body, it gets hard to breathe–allergic. And they tried to convince me it was selfish on my part to not want shellfish. I put my foot down and in the planning kit my wedding planner gave me guess what I put—DEATHLY ALLERGIC TO SHELLFISH.
You need to put your foot down or you will never get excited about this wedding again–except for when you see your future husband standing at the alter of course. I got lucky–the -zilla and I are fighting so I have decided to do everything my way. Do what’s best for you!!
Post # 4
Things aren’t going to go your way until you stop saying yes to things that you don’t really want. You’ve got to start speaking up, it’s your wedding and of course everyone in the family is going to have some sort of opinion or input. But ultimately you are the one with the power, it’s your wedding and you need to speak up! Easier said than done, but it has to be done
Post # 5
thanks everyone. I did stand up for myself a little and feel a little better. I guess i have now switched from not wanting to plan a wedding to not knowing where to start!
Hopefully this will be an interesting and happy journey
Post # 6
Do NOT be afraid to voice your opinion. This is to be the happiest day of your life. I would write a list of everything you want to changed about your wedding, and DO IT. Be prepared for backlash and to be called a bridezilla. It’s ok; people do not like loosing control!
Surround yourself by an awesome bridal party that will love and support you 1000%