Post # 1
I admit this has happened to me on several occasions and, althoug his career is in entirely different field, sometimes he is asked to do projects with people I work with. Over me. Yes, he is good at what he does in both areas but it really makes me feel crummy. Especially since it’s pretty much the only thing I’m good at and want to be good at.
This is new to me and I don’t know how to handle it. :/ I feel I should be happy for him but I’m not. I need to build up my work experience BADLY and being passed over for a project someone wants my Darling Husband to work on is hard to handle.
Post # 3
@SimplyChic11: He’s your husband, can you take the opportunity to learn from him?
Post # 4
Yup. Fiance and I worked together and not to brag, but he’s brilliant. Now, I’m intelligent, and I know it, but seriously, my Fiance is one of the smartest people I’ve ever met. He also has about 10 years of experience on me. We’re both in IT and while I’m now the IT Manager/Director at the company we worked at together and he is succeeding at his new workplace, he still contracts for us sometimes. It kills me that sometimes they seem to value his opinion over mine. I don’t really have much advice other than to take it gracefully and continue to work your ass off. You’ll get the experience and they won’t even feel the need to ask Darling Husband at some point.
Post # 5
My brother tends to date girls who work in the same field. I actually always wondered if one of them gets jealous ever. I think they really try to learn from each other instead of making a competition out of it.
Post # 6
Actually I have the opposite problem. I have the PhD and am a college professor and my FH works for a bakery. He makes pretty good money as he has been there for over 30 years and is union, but I thought I detected a lack of enthusiasm the last time I increased my rank and got a nice pay raise.
Post # 7
Agreed. It IS hard. Which is why I’ve dated guys in my field but didn’t marry one of them. I’m pretty competitive. I’m happy for Darling Husband, really. But do find it easier to be happy for him when he makes strides at his own thing. I guess that’s just me though. I do like to keep our work places seperate just because that’s the way it’s always been.