(Closed) Has your FMIL ever made you…?

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
2742 posts
Sugar bee

Did they end up coming for the wedding?

Post # 4
2247 posts
Buzzing bee

Omg, yes!  Are you sure we don’t have the same Future Mother-In-Law (well. Mother-In-Law, in your case)? I feel like my situation is going to end up similar. Basically, Future Mother-In-Law hates her only sister and one of her brothers.  Her sister screwed Future Father-In-Law and Future Mother-In-Law when it comes to taxes, she was their bookeeper for their business and she neglect to pay millions in taxes.  Doesn’t sound like anyone I’d want at my wedding anyway.  FMIL’s brother treated his wife badly and cheated on her, then divorced her when he’d gone into debt, leaving her with nothing.  His wife also happens to be FMIL’s best friend.  So, she took her best friend’s side.

Anyway, when FCIL got married in May, Future Mother-In-Law forbade her from inviting her brother and sister.  So, I just assumed that for her own son’s wedding, her mind wouldn’t be changed.  A couple weeks ago we were making a verbal guest list estimate to determine how many hotel rooms we needed.  She said, “If D and W come, they’ll need rooms for their families, too.”  So, I just said, I’m not inviting them because I don’t want the drama.  She was like, “Yeah, that’s for the best.”

I bet she’s gonna end up blaming me for not inviting them if anybody gets upset.

Post # 5
907 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Wow, that’s really unfair of them to put you in that position.

Post # 7
2742 posts
Sugar bee

@kperry3: I’m glad they ended up coming because YOU don’t have a problem with them and they were happy with you and didn’t mess up your day. Sometimes these little quarels are just that, little quarels. I’m so glad you enjoyed your day month twin!

Post # 8
5977 posts
Bee Keeper

We absolutely had the same issue. My Mother-In-Law gave me an address for someone on my FIL’s side of the family and had Mr. & Mrs. Smith and Michael on the original address. She re-looked at the list and told me to take off “and Michael” b/c she didn’t think he needed to be invited. 

Well, when Mr. & Mrs. Smith called her to demand why Michael wasn’t invited, she blamed me and said I must not have addressed the invitation correctly! I was furious. They all ended up not coming b/c of how offended they were and they think it’s my fault. I let it go since they never talk to that side of the family, but I definitely wasn’t happy with my MIL!

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