- 4 years ago
- Wedding: June 2014
A little back story: I grew up with a crazy, bi-polar father who used to switch moods at the drop of a hat,he had an explosive temper, but sometimes could be super nice… I lived my entire childhood and some of my adulthood in fear, until I moved out.
I’ve now been with my FI for almost four years, I truly believe he is the most perfect man for me in the world. We have an amazing relationship. He’s probably the kindest most gentle man I’ve ever known. I’ve always known that a big part of my attraction to his personality was that he is the complete opposite of my dad. My FI rarely gets angry, Hes a pretty patient, and mellow kind of person…
So, last night my little twenty pound rescue dog who we got together around two years ago did her nightly crying to go outside…(she does this every single night after we eat dinner) my FI always is the one who takes her out at night, I’m not too keen on taking her out at night and he SAYS he prefers he do it at night too. Note:I definitely don’t think I’d mind taking her, he just always does it, so I never really offer at night. So Juno starts her crying thing (which I admit can be super annoying) and my FI calmly says “give me a few mins Juno, give me a few mins…I just finished my dinner” ….doesn’t work, she’s adominent on going out immediately, all the sudden my FI SPRINGS up like a bat of hell, and starts muttering angrily, and loudly saying “FINE!!!” And starts stomping around the house very loudly….(which also pissed me off because he knows how respectful I try to be of our downstairs neighbors and their one year old baby) he took her outside, and ten mins later comes in and seems completely fine…it was like a total mood swing.
I stayed quiet for the next two hours, it upset me so much that he overreacted to something so stupid. Like, have some self control.
He knew it upset me and he apologized. it got me thinking about when we have babies…when we have kids, they will probably cry, and whine and disbehave at times….is he gonna just randomly fly off the handle for no good reason? I asked him that, and he kinda just shrugged and said ” I really don’t know how I’ll be as a parent, I’d like to say I wouldn’t just get upset for no reason…”
I know I’m overly sensitive because of my childhood, I guess the reason for my post is to know if other bees feel like their upbringings or past experience ever make you feel a certain way about things your FI does? Is there a good way to combat these feelings? Did I have really any valid reason for being upset last night? (Be honest)