(Closed) Has your SO been engaged before?

posted 10 years ago in Waiting
Post # 47
3081 posts
Sugar bee

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@MaidMarian:  Mine had a similar situation. They were both 18 and had a crazy on again off again relationship. He asked her to marry him but there was never a ring or any planning.

So I guess technically yes, but i jokingly told him it doesnt really count without a ring (so he wouldnt think about asking me without a ring hehe)

Post # 48
168 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I was engaged before and it ended pretty badly, but I met my boyfriend a few months later and I knew he was the one pretty quickly. For me, the first engagement was a lot of settling and my boyfriend showed me that I didn’t have to settle. I guess there’s a little part of me that is hesitant, but mostly I am just so excited and anxious for a proposal because it is so much better now. It did take some time for me to get to this point though. 

Post # 49
1064 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

It’s relieving to not be alone.  My SO was engaged before, to his Girlfriend of 3 years, for two years.  At the time he was running a company and living at home so he could afford to spoil her rotten, as I know from people commenting on how spoilt I must get all the time.  I don’t because he now has a far less well paying job, but it really gets under my skin that he would spoil her with underwear and nights out and I didn’t even get a bday present this year (only because we couldn’t afford it, he still treated me to a candlelight spa at home) His mother still has photos of her up in the loungeroom too (and none of me)

We have been together for 3 years, living together for 2 and a half.  In the last couple of months he has mentioned marriage, and said that he wants to propose to me soon, but other times, says it’s a bad time for us.  I know he also spoke to his mother about proposing, since he said she asked him if he was going to propose while we are in France this January, and he said no because it’s cliche and stupid.  But when I asked him what else they had discussed, he put on a cheeky smile and said that he wasn’t telling me.  I have no idea what he is doing.  He constantly talks about our future, buying property and having children. He spoke to my Uncle about how my family would feel about it (which my uncle replied to favourably) I am only anxious since he is joining the army next year and we have plans for me to join him at the Barracks, but that’s not possible for childless defacto couples.  

I just feel like the main thing that is pulling him back is the fact he’s been engaged before and it ended badly.  He had to fork out thousands to her, and she was the one cheating. He has said before when he was drunk that it just sucks that it’s happened before or it would have already happened, but he doesn’t want to make the same mistake twice.  That hurt my feelings as I would prefer if he didn’t think of me as a “mistake” while everything is going so well (that’s me being petty, I know.)


Any advice girls?

Post # 49
20 posts
  • Wedding: October 2019 - Helotes, Tx

I was engaged with my ex last year. He proposed in my birthday July 2016 and in Feb 2017 I had to end it due to issues and his insecurities affected our relationships. I compromised more than him and in the end he told me he why he kept pushing the wedding date and just stated he wasn’t ready and was afraid of commitment.  The day after I moved out he slept with a girl out of depression and being drunk. Recently now he keeps messaging me hes seeing another girl whose cheating on her boyfriend. He keeps stating he has to tell me who he slept as honesty incase I decide to go back with him. I told him to stop communication and he got upset when I blocked him on Facebook. He still wont delete pics of us on social media.

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