Hatch my House registry: Has anyone used this? Success or failure?

posted 6 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Please don’t do this.  This is a cash registry and cash registries are rude.  If you don’t need anything and would prefer cash, then don’t regsiter (or have a small one for those people who don’t like giving cash).  Then when people ask where you are registered you tell them, “We’re registered at X, but are saving up for a house.”  Your mom, Future Mother-In-Law, grandparetns, bridal party, etc. can also pass this along this via word of mouth.  People will get the hint that you prefer cash.  Also, that site has a 6% transaction fee.  So if a guest wants to give you $100, you only get $94.  As a guest, I’d be pissed – I can write you a check for free.

 

Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

I don’t like the idea of registries for cash gifts, especially when they take a cut (which they do).  The only type of non-traditional registry that I don’t mind is a honeymoon one where you gift specific things/experiences like a massage (although I would probably still check to see if all my gift was actually going towards the gift and not transaction fees).

I would prefer someone would just not register, or register for a few items and I would take that as a hint they prefer cash gifts.  I’ve also asked couples directly, and many people asked me/my parents/bridal party where we were registered and what we would prefer.

If someone did this type of registry, I would just give a cheque, but I would probably shake my head in private when I found out about the registry.

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

Oh, and if you’re having a shower (unless it’s a lingerie one) I think it’s really best to have a traditional registry, unless you’re very open to getting a bunch of kitchen stuff you haven’t registered for, with duplicates.  I can come up with gifts for non-traditional showers with these types of registeries, but to be honest you will probably be annoying many of your guests.

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

@MissCT:  I’ve never actually known anyone I’ve given a gift to who used any non-brick and mortar store, not even Amazon.  You’re probably right about the honeymoon registry, but I would at least check it out rather than just immediately deciding to go the cheque route.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’m going to say no on ths one.

Post # 11
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

If you’re doing a traditional registry, word of mouth that you’re saving for a downpayment should result in plenty of cash gifts.  Over 1/2 of our wedding gifts were cash, and all that was mentioned were the registries when asked.  I know many guests who gave physical gifts would have given cash if it was mentioned when asked.

 

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo

If they take a cut of what your guests give, I think my recommendation would be what another poster said; if anyone asks, mention that you are saving up for a house.  And then if you have another registry… don’t put as many things on there.  Then you will be more likely to get money as a gift I think??

I personally am not against registries like this (house, honeymoon, wishing well, etc.), I just think it’d be better to get everything (in cash form) rather than have to pay for this service.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

You can absolutely put a link to your registry on your website!  I just wouldn’t put anything about gifts on the card or anywhere in the invitation.  I also wouldn’t put anything on the website about saving for a house, I think it would come off too much like flat out asking for cash.  I would stick with word of mouth for that bit.  Whatever you do though, don’t use a cutsie poem.  Poems do not make anything better.

Post # 16
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’m a no on this – and other cash registries.

Here is my take on this whole situation:

I think people these days know that couples live together and don’t need all the home things they once did.  Most people realize young couples getting married are savings for something like a down payment and could use cash (couldn’t we all use cash in thie economy?!)

However, that being said, there are people (especially older people) who DISLIKE giving cash (or gift cards) and think it is rude/not thoughtful. These people WILL give you a physicial gift (whether you have registered or not!).  So, it’s wise to register for things you may want in the future (once you have that brand new house it will be nice to have brand new pots/pans and plates, etc. to go with it!)

People who give cash give cash, people who give gifts, give gifts.  I honestly think that is just the way it is.  

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