Post # 1
I have always hated being the centre of attention. On my wedding day I will be the one people are looking at and I’m really uncomfortable with it. Professionally I’m fine to have people look and listen to me but personally I’ve always hated anyone making a fuss. I don’t even celebrate my birthdays with people. Although I enjoy celebrating other people’s weddings and birthdays, my own is proving more difficult.
I had hoped that I would embrace the process but Im still trying to hide. I want to be married, I want to be out with my friends but I just hate the fact that the celebration has me and my partner as its focus, I wish it was someone else’s wedding and I just got to hang on the sidelines and enjoy it.
Has anyone else felt this way?
Post # 3
Yeah. FH and I are both like that. We just decided to have a smaller wedding ceremony with roughly 60 to 70 guests. That way, there’s not quite as many eyes on us. I haven’t let it really worry me or stress me out though. I’m sure that on the day of I’m not going to care at all who is looking at me.
Post # 4
Thanks for responding. I’m a week out and I’ve just been ignoring it in order to not worry but as I get closer the trepidation has risen because I can’t hide any more. I know on the day it will just be something I deal with but in the days leading up I am struggling to get excited about it. I love my partner immensely but perhaps should have just had a registry wedding rather than one with guests.
Post # 5
Hi, are you me? I’m exactly the same way. I’m a teacher, so I’m fine at work in front of classrooms full of kids, but parties and things focused on me make me really uncomfortable. If you’re only a week away from the wedding, unfortunately I don’t have any advice, but you’re definitely not alone in your feelings.
Post # 6
Thanks Jabberwocky. That is what I need to hear, that someone else feels the same. Everyone else I know has had a countdown to their wedding and wanted everyone to see them all in white. Sometimes I feel a bit alien in the fact that I really love weddings but turns out not so much when its me in the white dress. I know I will enjoy it, I just wish I was one of those extroverts who love centre stage. Would make the process easier. 🙂
Post # 7
Darling Husband and I HATE being the center of attention…that’s why we just went to the courthouse and had a party later =) It was perfect for us!
Post # 8
@Desertdweller: If it’s any consolation, I would just remember that weddings are inherently communal events — they really aren’t just about the bride and groom. They’re about celebrating the whole community that raised you and cared for you and still supports you today.
And as long as your ceremony is relatively short and sweet, all eyes won’t actually be on you for very long. So I would just try to take a sip of champagne before walking down the aisle and enjoy everyone who is there to support you.