(Closed) HATE my birth control (vent and TMI)

posted 5 years ago in Wellness
Post # 3
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2815 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I personally cant use any form of hormonal birth control as it causes depression for me.

Would your SO be more comfortable using condoms if you charted as well? Then you could avoid your fertile days to prevent pregnancy.

My DH was not comfortable with me charting, but that’s what we had to do until I got my IUD. There are not too many choices for those of us who can’t do hormones!

As for your FI, he really needs to learn to bend on this issue too. Birth control cannot be up to the woman alone.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

@ColoradoGirl:  I feel your pain and I’m so sorry you hare having to deal with this.  I was having the same symptoms on the birth control I was on (Yaz), so I finally just had to go off of it completely.  Definitely not the most ideal thing to do, but my doctor recommended it.  I hope you find something that works!

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

I can’t use any hormonal birth control. It just messes me up. I tried so many different types and they kept telling me we just had to find the right one. Meanwhile, I gained a ton weight, would pass out at random on hot days or in the shower, was either bitchy or depressed 2 weeks out of every 4, and had no desire to have sex.

For a lot of women, it’s just not worth it. Condoms and charting (real charting, where you take your temperature and all) could be a good idea.

I thought about a non-hormonal IUD for a while, but I didn’t want to commit to 3 years with it in.

Post # 7
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2815 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@ColoradoGirl:  Well, I would flat out tell him where to go if he isn’t willing to compromise at all. I’m sorry, but so often men think that birthcontrol is not something they’re responsbile for and that it should be all up to the lady.

He needs to realize that you’re getting sick from what you’re doing now. He needs to actively search for options and be open to choices that may be different from what he is used to.

I had a hard time convincing my DH that charting was right for us while I waited to get an IUD.  Eventually I flat out told him that it was that, or nothing at all for him. lol I was tired of being sick!

Hopefully you can get your BP under control and be able to go back on the BC you prefer.

Post # 9
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1403 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I’m sorry you’re going through this.  I’ve been having the same problem, but I’m not on a mini pill.  I’ve lost count of the number of different bc pills I’ve tried.  It really sucks.  ):  Have you talked to your doctor about other options for bc?

Post # 11
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1370 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@mrsSonthebeach:  Is there a rule about 3 years with a copper IUD? I have Mirena and my doctor told me I could have it taken out whenever I wanted, no questions asked. Weird!

Post # 13
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2815 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Oh, and with the IUD, you can have it removed at any time. There really isn’t much of a commitment with it!

Either way, I hope you find a solution that makes you both happy!

Post # 14
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651 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@urchin:  I agree. I can’t do hormones either so I got the Liberte IUD (I think it is Paragaurd in the US). 

Anyway, I have been off hormones since last August and seriously, I am a whole new person. No depression, less anxiety, no mood swings, level headed. The only downside has been feeling when I’m ovulating and my skin isn’t as clear. 

 

@ColoradoGirl:  At the time when I had to transfer off hormones, my SO wasn’t thrilled, but you have to remember that it is your body that is at risk. High BP is nothing to mess with and if he wants to keep you he should take your health seriously. Would he rather have you alive and healthy and use condoms for awhile or would he rather lose you to some thing connected to you High BP? It was a simple decision for my SO. He wanted me back to normal. Not crazy, reactive and anxious. 

Also, if you have white coat syndrome, can you go to the pharmacy and use the BP machines yourself? Track it for a week at similar times each day and bring the results to your GP. It could help you get a more accurate reading. 

Post # 15
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7908 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

@thursdayschild:  You can have it taken out whenever, but when you get one, they recommend you keep it for three years since it’s semi-invasive to implant and to balance the costs of the pill.

Post # 16
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11327 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

I’m about to go off BC and try the ladycomp. Basically it is charting, but it does all the measuring/figuring for you because I don’t trust myself to interpret charts. 

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