(Closed) Hate my Boss— Do I HAVE to invite her?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Correct etiquette n Coworker/Boss invites?
    You HAVE to invite your boss, no matter what, its the right thing to do. : (1 votes)
    1 %
    You only need to invite your boss if you start inviting other people within the company. : (17 votes)
    22 %
    It's your wedding, you can invite whomever you wish. : (58 votes)
    76 %
  • Post # 3
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I invited the people that I work closely with and have hung out with outside of work.  That did not include my boss (who has been by boss for six months of the two years I’ve been with the company).

    Post # 4
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    1222 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    IMO I think you should only invite those you’re closest to (old group). As you stated, you were already in your planning & already had a guestlist planned out; a guestlist that didn’t include your new dept.

    Post # 5
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    721 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I think you should invite your old group but don’t spread it around the office that you’re inviting work people.

    I am not inviting anyone from my work and I work with a very small group.  But space, money and my nerves are limited and I don’t particularly like anyone I work with, so I decided not to invite any of them.  Including the boss.

    Post # 6
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    2588 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    Hell no, you don’t have to.

    Post # 7
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    317 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    You don’t have to invite your boss or anyone from work, but try not to talk about wedding business at work…

    Post # 8
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    1046 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    I would just skip inviting everyone from your new work group. If you haven’t been working with them that long, they really shouldn’t expect an invitation. And I think coworkers tend to be more understanding about this sort of thing…you can’t invite the whole office!

    Post # 9
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    2714 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Uhhh I’m not inviting anyone that I work with – no boss, no co-workers… but I’m not really close with them and don’t talk about my wedding around them. Is it really considered bad etiquette to not invite them??

    Post # 10
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    875 posts
    Busy bee

    I wouldn’t invite a co-worker who is not a true friend outside of work!  Don’t worry about needing to invite a boss or about the fact that your friends who happen to work at the same place are getting an invitation.

    Post # 11
    Hostess
    18643 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I didn’t invite anyone in my office of 8 people.  I did invite a client that I was friends with though.

    Post # 12
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    311 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I would just invite your old co-workers that you had already planned on inviting.  You have done everything right by not talking about your wedding plans to your current co-workers, so they should not expect an invite.  I have changed companies since I got engaged and work for a very small company now where I have not invited anyone, but I still invited my some of my co-workers from my old job, but only the ones I am closest to. 

    Post # 13
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    277 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I invited two people from work. There’s no way I was going to invite everyone or my boss. I like most of the people I work with, but I didn’t think I needed to share my vows in front of them.

    Post # 14
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    14186 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    Invite none of them. Just tell them you’re having a family wedding. i don’t think anyone will really think much of it and just don’t talk about your wedding at work.

    Post # 15
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    837 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    It’s not proper etiquette to invite your boss.  However, I would follow the all or nothing rule.  If you invite co-workers, invite your boss, if you don’t invite coworkers don’t worry about inviting your boss.  There’s no rule out there that says your required to invite your boss.

    Post # 16
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    168 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I work in a 5 person office and I’m not inviting any of them.  I like my co-workers, but I don’t see them outside of work and I don’t feel the need for them to come!

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