Hate my custom wedding band. Need advice.

posted 2 years ago in Rings
  • poll: What should I do with my wedding band?
    Suck it up and wear it. : (3 votes)
    3 %
    Go with the sketch the jewellers sent : (8 votes)
    9 %
    Re-make it into an entirely new band (comment below on which style) : (79 votes)
    85 %
    Other - comment below : (3 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 16
    128 posts
    Blushing bee

    I see your point , it is definitely overpowering your gorgeous ering, i see it paired with a beautiful dainty diamond band, love the ideas from PPs…..start from scratch…you will be much happier…

    Post # 17
    466 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2017

    I’ve got no useful advice, I’m just here to say I love your e-ring.

    Maybe since the band they sent you is so thick, they could do something with it and make it a little burlier and have it be the groom’s band?  It doesn’t look like it’s even the same color as your other ring.

    Post # 18
    233 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2017

    I think that style from asweatpear is best. Take he ring back to the jewler and have them melt down the gold and make something similar to that picture. Be specific about what size you want the width of the band. Say “I want this style with a 1.7 mm band.” 

    Post # 20
    1300 posts
    Bumble bee

    I’m really surprised the jeweler would make the diamonds in your wedding band gypsy set when your engagement ring is prong set.  That’s why the w-band is so wide.  They’re two completely different styles.

    If they could prong set the diamonds in the w-band it will be a lot daintier and look so much better with your e-ring.  I would see if they would be willing to do that at less charge.

    Otherwise, the bead and eye bands that are very popular right now would look really pretty with your ring.  I also like the one from ASweetPear posted earlier.

    Post # 21
    266 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: St. petersburg, FL

    PP’s have said it already- go with something daintier. You will never be happy with this ring, especially since your doubt brought you here! Get something you love. πŸ™‚ 

    Post # 22
    64 posts
    Worker bee

    glitterandshine :  I feel your pain! I’m currently going through the same thing. I ordered a twist band that was suppose to twist into my engagement ring to kind of cup the diamond. They had my engagement ring for a month to match up the band to my ering and when I got it back, the twist was going the wrong direction, impossible for it to match up to my ering.

    I also had a CAD drawing I approved. Which I still love. But I didn’t have my ering to know whether it would match up. That was their job! I just gave my ring back to them last week and told them to do it again. My fiance is handling what they are going to do with the messed up ring so unfortunately I have no advice on what to do in that regard. But I say take it back! Get a plain band with a little curve and a lot less bulkiness.

    Best of luck! 

    Post # 23
    325 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2010

    glitterandshine :  sadly I went through the same thing. Had a custom wedding band made by a supposedly reputable jeweler and it was hideous, I hated it! The work was sloppy and the diamonds set improperly. I attempted to get back half of my money so I could get it remade elsewhere (I gave him the gold and diamonds to be used for the custom piece) and he refused. I think he gave me $200 back, I then decided to get my bands remade by David Klass thanks to all of the glowing reviews here on the bee. He was phenomenal and his prices unbeatable. Unfortunately I was still out some money but given the quality of the rings he made me and what they appraised for it all turned out. Now I absolutely adore my wedding bands!  A lesson was learned and who knows maybe this experience happened for a reason. I wish you luck and my advice is if you feel like you cannot come to a meeting of the minds with this jeweler or you feel like they can’t deliver what you want, I would part ways. 

    Post # 24
    972 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2008

    Dude ….melt it down and start over !i am so sorry this happened to you ! I love you’re engagement ring πŸ’ get a band like the pp said it will look so much better .. good luck πŸ€πŸ‘ 

    Post # 25
    1754 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2018

    glitterandshine :  I think the problem is that it is not only not dainty at all but it looks so inorganic. I think you nee just a soft airy curve. Something small and sweet. 

    Like these:


    Post # 26
    98 posts
    Worker bee

    glitterandshine :   i think something like this would be pretty as well- you could melt down the ring and have the round stones that are already there alternating with baguettes. Simple yet blingy and refined, it won’t compete with your ering! I’d also demand they remake a prettier ring at a discounted price since you don’t think the CAD matches the final product, they owe you


    Post # 27
    1715 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2009

    Custom is so very hard! I’m so sorry. 

    In an effort to make use of what you’ve paid for and assuming they don’t charge you much to fix, here is my idea. I’ll preface this with I’ve never tried to cut out the metal around a gypsy-set — while the stones are set. But, melee diamonds are pretty inexpensive (~$50-$100 each), so no heartbreak if they break during messing with the ring. Do make sure they are excellent cut, VS1 melee or they won’t sparkle much. 

    I’d have then add the three inner stones, as the drawing suggests, also add additional small stone on each side of those.They should also cut away the V of metal between each of the larger stones on the outside to make a floral look. They can also thin the band down to 1.5 mm (not sure what it is now). So, add curves and drop mass of gold. 

    Pic below your ring show how you can put three stone closely together (above the largest bezel). So, don’t accept it if they say they can’t. wink  


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    Post # 28
    2663 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    Cut your losses and run. Buy a ring you like with the money you get back. I’m sorry you had a bad experience. It doesn’t make you pathetic; you can never tell until it’s on your finger. You have to love it.

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