Hate my Valentine's Day gift :/ should I be honest ???

posted 3 years ago in Holidays
Post # 46
627 posts
Busy bee

There’s lilies and they haven’t opened yet. They’ll be pretty, and even if they’re not your tastes, you don’t criticize someone’s loving gesture. You can tell him your favorite flower another time. For now, appreciate the intent, and do something for vday for him if you haven’t yet!

Post # 47
2413 posts
Buzzing bee

What everyone else said.  

Although I imagine you were wondering WTF he was thinking when you thought they were green tulips!

Post # 48
2627 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - Hogarths, Solihull

I can understand you being confused when you opened them haha they do look weird before they bloom!

Let us know what colour they are when they open! I LOVE lillies, I just hate all the pollen!


Post # 49
1581 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2017 - Ocean front

Poor guy….how thoughtful of him!

Post # 51
253 posts
Helper bee

Honestly, if I was your guy I would think you were terribly rude for saying you don’t like the flowers. They’re flowers. They literally die in 1-2 weeks anyway. It’s not like you hate an expensive piece of jewelry, clothes, etc. Nobody else will even see the flowers.

Be appreciative that your man was thoughtful enough to do something for you. It’s sweet. And you sound very rude.

Post # 52
7002 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

I literally cannot a situation when it would be worth it to tell your partner you “hate” the flowers they gifted you. Seriously? They’re freaking flowers. They’re going to die in a week anyway.

Post # 53
5049 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2017

I think you should appreciate the fact that you were thought of and gifted something at all!  If you prefer a different flower you can casually mention that at a different time.

As others have pointed out those are lillies, not tulips and they have yet to open because they are fresh flowers.

Post # 54
863 posts
Busy bee

poshmary :  I wouldn’t say anything. I second what everyone else said about them being lilies–they’re going to open to be a beautiful white or pink and they’re going to smell AMAZING. But honestly, a bouquet of flowers won’t be something that you have to keep forever/wear all the time. They’re flowers. Say thank you. Enjoy them while they last and then in a week you’ll never have to look at them again. Chances are, he’ll choose a different flower next time unless if you’re gushing over your love for them this time (which you’re not). 

Post # 55
191 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Im glad you decided not to say anything, they will be beautiful!

Just a piece of advice, I once told my husband jokingly when we were first dating that I “hoped he didnt get me flowers for my birthday” because he was literally buying them. all. the. time. Like every week, and I was being a drama queen and materialistic instead of appreciating that my Darling Husband did anything for me at all.  Long story short, he didnt buy flowers for almost two years, he was so hurt by the comment. I felt terrible, apparently we are moving on from this because he surprised me with a beautiful bouquet yesterday and him buying flowers again was the best gift I could have asked for,

Post # 56
2357 posts
Buzzing bee

Well, considering you didn’t know they were lillies, I don’t think I would tell him that the flowers are awful. And as others have said they will die anyway.

However, I do hate lillies. They remind me of death, but I’d still pretend to enjoy them….


Post # 57
624 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2019

Why don’t you donate them? I saw this one article about a man who distributed 100s of roses to random strangers on V-Day. He said the news has been filled with hate and rage lately so it’s something to brighten up the morning papers, give people something to smile about. 🙂 

Post # 58
411 posts
Helper bee

I’ll take ’em, Casablancas are my favorite!

Post # 59
229 posts
Helper bee

I just have to say. I have never in my life complained about a single gift, no matter what it was or whether I liked it or not! It’s just something you don’t do! Girllllll, seriously?!?!

Be grateful he got you anything at all, that means you are special to him and he was thinking of you. I mean FFS, my hubs could pick me a freaking dandelion and I’d be happy he thought of me!

And yes, those are lilies LOLOLOLOLOL

Post # 60
61 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

I don’t think it’s that big of deal so I would say something like “yes I love them” because of the thought. And then later when your at the store, show him the flowers you do like and maybe even mention again how much you hate tulips lol I didn’t really like the flowers my fiancé gave me either but it’s not the end of the world, their just flowers 🙂 

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