Hate my wedding dress

posted 2 years ago in Dress
Post # 17
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Bumble bee
Post # 18
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Bumble bee
Post # 19
131 posts
Blushing bee

For what it’s worth, I don’t see any mush at all. I think you have a banging body that suits that dress well. However, if you are not comfortable in it nothing others say will help. What about adding an over skirt? The added volume would help make your waist look smaller by contrast, and you could get a plain one, no lace. It would be an additional cost, but much less than getting a whole new dress. 

Voluminous tulle: https://www.davidsbridal.com/Product_tulle-ball-gown-wedding-skirt-wg3947_bridal-separates

Simple satin: https://www.etsy.com/listing/703389248/elegant-wedding-ivory-satin-full-skirt?ga_order=most_relevant&ga_search_type=all&ga_view_type=gallery&ga_search_query=bridal+skirt&ref=sc_gallery-1-15&plkey=9e2ef744b412843d7d52919752e96eff9e181606%3A703389248&frs=1


Post # 21
747 posts
Busy bee

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docinlove484 :  I think you look great, and you have an exceptional ass that dress shows off well. I don’t see 10 pounds to lose anywhere, but we’re always our own worst critics, and as someone with body image issues I know the struggle. 

Are you used to showing that much skin? i don’t think you need a spray tan at all, your skin photographs creamy beautiful. But, if you don’t normally where tops like your dress, have you considered a cape or lace topper if you are feeling too exposed? 

Post # 22
4582 posts
Honey bee

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docinlove484 :  oh, I didn’t realize that was a belt. I thought it was part of the dress and thought it sat too low on you. 

Post # 23
3503 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

I agree with the PP’s. You look great in the dress and you don’t need to spray tan. Have you tried something like Spanx? I wore Spanx under my wedding dress and it made me feel more comfortable. You’ve got a great shape already, but it might just give you a confidence boost.

Post # 24
3 posts
  • Wedding: May 2020

Your dress is stunning. You look elegant, romantic and gorgeous – the perfect combo!

This is actually the kind of dress I was looking for but couldn’t find in my big city. Funny how we always think the grass is greener!

I hope you come to peace with how beautiful it is, and your soon-to-be husband will be in awe when he sees his effortlessly beautiful bride.  <3

Post # 25
81 posts
Worker bee

Another option might be altering the straps.  Having such thin, delicate straps puts all the attention to the midsection.  There are some options such as lace or something sparkly to add some more emphasis up top.  It might add some balance and give the illusion of a more hourglass shape.   

Post # 26
1351 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2019 - Turkey

Girl what? You look stunning on that dress and not mushy or anything like that at all! In four months, I’d do some pilates and toning exercises, not that you need it, but just because you asked. You’ll be great babe, don’t worry. 

Post # 28
1381 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2021

1) You look stunning in that dress, and I wouldnt change a thing. 

2) The belt is a nice addition, but I would bring it up a smidge to sinch your waist a tad higher. 

3) I echo shapewear if you must, but honestly I don’t think you need it. 

4) PLEASE DO NOT SPRAY TAN. Your skin is lovely, no need to be something that you’re not.  

Post # 29
2058 posts
Buzzing bee

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docinlove484 :  

You look beautiful in your dress and it fits you perfectly.  I don’t see that it needs anything other than a hem.  Don’t alter anything–not the straps, not your body, not your skin.  You are in great shape and it shows. I agree with pp about the fact that you have a fantastic a** and that dress really showcases it.  Your fh will love seeing you in this dress. No to shape wear.  1) You don’t need it.  2) That dress is very thin and cut off lines will show.  As for the spray tan…good grief.  Your skin tone is lovely.  Do not spray tan that.  Wear stick bra supports to prevent headlights in your pics. Sure, it’s natural and all that, but I don’t think it’s a look you’re going for.

Post # 30
7223 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2016

That dress is gorgeous on you, OP. I’d say skip the spray tan – if you aren’t familiar with them, now isn’t really the time to start experimenting and it’s too easy to overdo it. Also, your skin contrasting with your hair is lovely. I would totally play that up.

Like a PP said, you could start working out and, in four months, you’ll see a huge impact. Even if you can’t join a gym, doing 25 pushups 2-3 days a week and alternating with body weight squats in your home and a couple high intensity ab exercises on the other days – within 4 months, you’d have more definition and probably be tighter overall, as well. Keep drinking lots of water (with a dash of salt) to flush toxins from your system so your skin is glowing. My husband is a trainer and had a client who had a similar shape to yours. She wanted to get fit for a friend’s international beachy wedding- within 3 months, she was significantly stronger and able to rock all of her outfits looking exactly how she’d wanted (including swimsuits in the beach).

Also, the belt does help, but I agree with PP about trying other styles and widths. Pushups will also add more definition and shape to your shoulders (which will make your waist look more narrow by comparison). I love that dropped back on your dress, too, by the way.

ETA – I would not alter those gorgeous spaghetti straps on your dress. You could wear a statement necklace (draws the eye up to your throat) and/or drop earrings – either of those would bring the eyes up toward your neck and face.

Post # 31
429 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: City, State

The dress looks a bit too tight around your hips based on the photo you posted. You should get it altered and then I agree with pp about the shapewear and workouts 

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