(Closed) Hate planning, no help, don't even want to do this.

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Why don’t you just elope?

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

first things first… you can do it! i know its really hard to get it all done when you are alone but it can be done and it is very possible to do april if you are getting money in febuary. what i would suggest to kind of help ease expenses is enter a bunch of wedding giveaways and you could luck out and win something cool that you dont have to worry aobut making yourself! also if you are big into facebook groups finding a local wedding group could be an AMAZING resource as well as the weddingbee group i love and another one called a swap from me to you which the ladies there are fab too. when i have an oh my god im going nuts moment i always have someone to talk to there

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Perhaps a small courthouse ceremony and a nice dinner afterwards would be a good solution for you?

I’m sorry to say it, but if his mother is always busy and can’t help, you’re going to have to figure it out on your own.  It’s your wedding, after all, so you’ve got to take the burden of planning whatever you choose and not get upset when other people don’t help.  You might not be creative, but there are plenty of people who are who have put their templates and designs online for the benefit of other brides.  If you find DIY projects you like here on WB, the actual Bee may give you some advice to help get the project off the ground. 

I think planning it all in two months is going to be really tough.  Will you need to book vendors in that time frame?  April is a busy month for weddings, so people may already be booked up. 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Do you have a checklist? I was over whelmed too, but I googled wedding checklist and printed one off and just started working on one thing at a time.  Everytime i get to check something off, i feel so much better about it all!  I’ve been keeping a little journal book too of the important names/numbers/prices as well. Try that and hopefully you won’t feel so overwhelmed.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Take a breathe! You Can and will get this done! Even with no help! My best friend decided on her April 21st date in February and we pulled together and in 6 weeks planned her OUT of town wedding. Granted she had already bought her dress and we had our dresses, but that was it. Yes, you can do it. You have a venue that’s the hardest part. Look on pinterest for ideas for decorations that are EASY (I am NOT crafty either and even I am making my own centerpieces). Invitations can be printed from like walk-mart or even shutterflu or even hand written. Nothing fancy. Keep it simple. Don’t stress. You have plenty of time. Ask you Future Mother-In-Law for specific tasks to help with and give her dates you need them by.

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Your going to make the dinner the night before the wedding? How many people are you feeding and who is going to serve it?

Post # 10
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@busybride215:  I was talking about other vendors, not the venue.  Meaning, the caterer, florist, DJ, photographer, cake baker, etc.  All of those extra people who are used in a typical wedding. 

Making the meal the night before the wedding is dangerous, and probably not going to go over that well.  You’re going to need somone to serve it, to make sure food is heated and kept warm, to stock a bar, etc.  These are things you won’t be able to do, and you shouldn’t be delegating guests to do.  I think you need to think long and hard about what you actually want out of this wedding and how you feasbly can pull it off. 

Post # 12
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@busybride215:  I never said you shouldn’t have a wedding.  I’m trying to point out some potential issues that should be addressed as you go through the planning.  I’m sorry my suggestions weren’t helpful to you!  Good luck in whatever you decide to do!

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@busybride215:  Just remember that you don’t need to do anything that you don’t want to do as part of your wedding. You don’t have to have center pieces, you don’t have to have cutesy favors, you don’t need to make a ring bearer’s pillow, you don’t need a unique guestbook, you don’t have to have anything that you don’t want to plan for or include as part of your wedding. If figuring out how to feed your guests is enough of a task for you, then make that your primary undertaking and focus on that. If anyone tells you that you need something else that you don’t feel is necessary, then tell them that they can do it or buy it for you.

My advice would be to make your own checklist using one from online as an example, and only include what you think is important and what you can afford. Work on your checklist as much as you can, and then maybe you can have specific tasks to delegate when people ask. If I were you, I’d start with figuring out your food budget and making a realistic plan for serving your guests.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

For flowers just get a list online or from a florist of what’s in season. then if I were you I’d narrow that list down by only choosing to order what comes in shades of light pink to peachy coral.

Let’s say there are ten types of flowers on your final list. I would pick the largest blooms to dominate the bridal bouquet with a few smaller blooms to mix with it. For Bridesmaid or Best Man bouquets I would use all one flower, a medium sized bloom. For bouts and corsages id use the smallest blooms. Everything else can be mixed and matched for all other decor.

I would go with the above colors for flowers (mix in one type of ivory colored flower or filler greens/berries to break it up, especially in your bouquet) and mint for everything else (mint ribbon accents, mint napkins on white tablecloths, etc.). 

Pick a decor element you like: mini chalkboards? Picture frames in different sizes? Textured fabrics like burlap or lace? Incorporate this one element in several places like signage, guest tables, ceremony and reception spaces. 

As for food, go with the season and find recipes that are simple and not too time-consuming to make. What veggies are in season in your area? Make 1-2 sides, 1-2 appetizers (if you’re doing apps), and a vegetarian entree. Do a poultry entree and a beef or pork entree. BBQ is the easiest but if you’re not into that just roast your entrees the night before and reheat the day of with some sauces/chutneys etc. seasonal fruits for desserts and even pies or tarts in lieu of a cake if you don’t want one. Do 1 easy pasta side and have rolls with regular butter and an herbed butter. Beverages: a signature cocktail, juices/sodas and water with lemon.

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