(Closed) Hate they way “early miscarriages” are treated.

posted 4 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 2
11356 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

That is surprising to me.  I have a friend who had issues with low progesterone when she was pregant (she had three miscarriages), and time was of the essence in her being treated for that. I’m surprised that the doctor did not at least want to see you to evaluate what is happening.  I’m so sorry that you are going through this, and I hope that all will be well with you and your baby. ((HUGS))

Post # 3
623 posts
Busy bee

Sorry the nurse line wasn’t more helpful 🙁 . Have you had any other spotting issues so far this pregnancy? Just for what it’s worth, having sex can cause spotting, due to small tears and/or because the cervix is more vascular during pregnancy (and thus more prone to bleed). You don’t know for sure that you are experiencing a miscarriage, just that you’re spotting, which is actually fairly common in early pregnancy. I know it’s nerve wracking, but there is really nothing you can do other than take it easy.

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Post # 4
916 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’m so sorry you’re having to go through all the worry! I’m also kind if surprised because with my first BFP (ended in an early mc) they checked my progesterone and tried to get it supplementEd in time. I would definitely push for an appt and get your hormone levels done. 

With this pregnancy, because there was a known issue, they’ve been sooo on top of things. If you feel like they aren’t trying anything, I’d look for a different doctor. It may not be your thing, but the catholic doctors tend to take stuff like that a lot more seriously because as catholics we believe that life begins at conception; it makes even an early mc much more of an important thing to stop. 

Good luck and lots of prayers! Fwiw, when i miscarried, it was just like a period, not just little spotting. Cramps, pads, the whole shebang, so you may be okay. *hugs*

Post # 7
8389 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Many people spot after sex when pregnant.

But if it is indeed a miscarriage, there really is nothing they can do at this point to stop it. Ask your doctor to have your HCG levels checked to see if they are going up or down.

Post # 8
7445 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

Some blood can be normal after having sex. I remember the one and only time I had any bleeding during my pregnancy was some brownish streaks about 24 hours after having sex. I have my fingers crossed for you!

Post # 9
556 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Go to the ER, if for nothing else, for your peace of mind. If it turns out to be nothing, you will be relieved. And if, sadly, it is a MC, at least you will know you did everything you could.

Post # 10
2906 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I’m so sorry you’re going through this worry! I know a lot of pregnant women have spotting after sex, so it seems pretty likely from what you’re describing (light spotting, no cramps) that you just irritated your cervix by having sex. (And that won’t hurt the baby or cause a miscarriage – the spotting will scare the shit out of you, sure, but won’t cause a miscarriage.)

While your doctor is, sadly, right that there’s usually nothing they can do to stop a miscarriage from happening, they should be willing to have you come in for a scan to relieve your anxiety. Whenever I called up with a concern like spotting or loss of symptoms, my OB’s office always fits me in for an ultrasound just in case. 

If it will make you feel better to go to the ER, do it. Just remember that they don’t always have doctors there who are familiar with what an early pregnancy looks like… I’ve heard awful stories of women who were told they were miscarrying by an ER doctor only to find out they were fine at a follow up visit with an OB. At seven weeks, an abdominal ultrasound might not show your baby as well as a transvaginal one, so keep that in mind if you go. 

Wishing you good luck and lots of peace and comfort! 

Post # 11
2915 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 1996

If you are miscarrying, I don’t think the ER can help at this point, I’m so sorry.

That said, I had spotting off and on my entire pregnancy. It always came from my cervix, which is particularly sensitive during pregnancy and can easily get bumped during intercourse. My son is a teenager now. I am thinking good thoughts for you that this spotting is nothing serious.

Post # 12
1895 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I think your just spotting from the sex… And my doctor was the same way with my MC… But she’s right, there really isn’t anything that can be done. once a MC starts… You can’t stop it. 


Post # 13
561 posts
Busy bee

I found out I was pregnant right at 4 weeks. I called for an appointment and they said they would see me at 10 weeks and to call if I start bleeding. the end.

Post # 14
1002 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015 - City Hall!

Many women do spot after having sex early in pregnancy.

But, I would find a new doctor and go to the ER for some reassurance. Hugs.

Post # 15
366 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

hi sweetie, I think you could just be spotting as my sister went through the same thing & everything was ok. If I were you I would go to ER, get checked over x

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