(Closed) Hate to Post This

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 78
470 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Double post. OP I hope you find peace and get counseling to help with your feelings surrounding this. It is a extremely difficult thing for you to go through. I was with an emotionally abusive person in the past and it took me a long time to heal from it.

Post # 79
462 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@This Time Round +1000.

Post # 80
1486 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

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@pocketful_of_flowers:  Accompany you to the “place of the incident”? Really? It’s not a crime scene! I would think that my husband had MAJOR controll issues if he said he wanwe’d to do that.

Post # 81
3218 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

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@EffieTrinket:  I get what you’re saying in terms of depression– he could be having a total break and maybe there’s a good guy under all of this.  But I also agree that OP’s safety is the top priority here and she needs to get herself to a safe place to work out what is happening.  If her husband does a 180 and prolonged therapy and counseling show that he really is healed and he won’t do this at the smallest future trigger, then maybe I’d consider slowly reentering the marriage– but I’m not sure I could personally trust him again. I do emphasize with the mental illness factor and that the guy has to be having a rough time, but the victim-blaming from other posters makes me absolutely furious.  I can’t touch the “you did this to yourself for having an opposite-sex friend” viewpoint because it is horribly sexist and blames the OP for something entirely out of her control.

OP, any updates?  I hope you’re doing well!

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