- 4 years ago
- Wedding: June 2018
Hi everyone. I recently proposed to my girlfriend. Before I proposed, her mother told her that she did not approve of me. Her mother says we are complete opposites, that I have trouble making up my mind because I can’t decide what to order at restuarants (I like to take my time), and because of the choices my siblings made in their own lives (I am the only sibling out of four who went to college, got a Phd, obtained a great job that makes over six figures, owns his own house and cars, and is responsible. In addition, I am very involved in my community, have recieved awards for my leadership, and am the godparent to four children. Also, I am very nice, respectful, and loved by the people where I live. Unfortunately for my fiance’s mother, I also have mild depression which I have had all my life. Because of this, my fiance’s mother says I am a mental case, will end up like Robin Williams, my children will be cursed, and sends updates from Web MD to my fiance’s brother.
Before I proposed, my fiance’s mother gave my fiance an ultimatum: break all contact with me or else. When my fiance went forward with me, her mother deactived my fiance’s phone plan, took away her phone, took away her car, and took away all the gifts she had given her in the past year. She also broke all contact with my fiance and has been calling all of my fiance’s friends.
My fiance’s mother has been telling anyone who will listen that I am a child molester (because I am catholic), I am possessed by the devil (because I have mild depression — a depression that I have lived with and overcome because I have done good things in my life –, I am mentally unstable, and that I am brainwashing my fiance.
In response to all of this, I have put my fiance on my phone plan, got her a phone and got her a car. I know these are just material items, but in response to her mother’s crueltly, I did not think twice about helping someone that I love.
Despite all of this, I am not the list bit sad or my self esteem in not affected. This woman is hateful and cruel. As a catholic man, I pray for her and do not say anything bad. I also support my fiance emotionally and will never bad mouth her mother. My fiance’s brother, his wife, and some of my fiance’s friends have already judged me and fear I am not a great match.
My parents are sad. My fiance’s mother will not speak with her, threatens to dance naked at our wedding and cause a scene. I know this won’t happen. It is so sad. This woman posts inspiring and god-fearing messages on social media, yet her actions are hypocrital and cruel.
My fiance is concerned for me. She feels sad because she knows I did not sign up for this treatment from her family. Her mother and brother may not come to our wedding. I know my fiance is the right person for me, but everyone tells me I should think twice about entering into this family. What do you think?