(Closed) hating the best man right now

posted 6 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
1269 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I dont get it. Why can’t you and Fiance tell the groomsmen where to be?

Post # 4
9954 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Hmmm, last time I looked the Bachelor Party (if that is what this is truly destined to be) is the GROOM’S PARTY… and so he gets the say-so

IF you guys have now agreed that part of the day is for you and the girls, and likewise the boys have “guy time”… you should stay out of it

This is NOT a Bride’s decision to make (you will get to make countless other ones).  To be pushing your agenda is to venture into Bridezilla territory


Just be thankful that you all are having a Guys & Gals / Couple Evening later

Honestly, this could be much worse… I just about cry every time I read about a Bride here on WBee who has found out an All-Guy Bachelor Party got out of hand (bad pun, but it is intended)


Post # 5
1284 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Yeah I don’t understand why your Fiance can’t just talk to the other groomsmen himself. You guys shouldn’t do anything you don’t want to do.

Post # 6
3150 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

I’m over it too and I only had to read about it! Let your moh work it out with him- it is not something you are supposed to plan. 

Post # 7
232 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

You’re not supposed to host parties where you’re the guest of honor. If this is a joint bachelor/bachelorette thing, and the best man and maid of honor are the hosts, they’ll make the arrangements. You graciously accept, thank them profusely, and enjoy yourself. Also, the hotels on the East Coast are filled with refugees and the clubs and restaurants aren’t exactly up and running right now in a lot of cities, so you might need to be flexible with your expectations. 


Post # 13
429 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’m finding it really difficult to read your posts with the blocks of text, run-on sentences and no apostrophes… sorry, not trying to be mean, it’s just really hard to get through. So I’m not certain if I’m reading the situation 100% correctly…

But I agree that you should step back and let the Maid/Matron of Honor and Bridesmaid or Best Man make the plans. It’s up to your Fiance to reinforce to his Bridesmaid or Best Man that you want your parties together… I don’t see how you can insist on that without him backing you up. Sounds like you need to talk with Fiance to see if he’s on the same page with you. If it was his idea in the first place, why doesn’t he say something?

Post # 16
1469 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@tailesha:  I understand why you’re annoyed. That’s shitty of him, but your FH does need to make it clear with the Bridesmaid or Best Man what he wants. Also, i would let FH know it’s ok if he genuinely changed his mind and wants a guy thing and that either way, he just needs to be clear with both you and Bridesmaid or Best Man. I just worry he’s getting pressure from both sides now and that’s why he’s over it so I would step back.

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