Post # 1
I’m a little sad that my cousin rsvp’d no. She lives in another state and I understand even though she said a while ago that she’d make sure she and her family could be there. I guess I’m starting to wonder if I should have tried harder to find a place where the wedding could have been on the weekend instead of a Friday night like where we’re doing. I guess it’s interesting too because I seriously considered at first asking her to be my Matron of Honor since I was her only bridesmaid at her wedding…and it’s not like she mentioned anything on Facebook to me about why they can’t go. I just want to know that I haven’t inadvertently done something.
Also, my other first cousin and his family can’t make it because they literally live across the country and he’s still in school. And while I’m thrilled about the people who have rsvp’d yes, I guess I’m a little sad that some people won’t be there.
Also, my dad and his brother are leaving right after the ceremony and I’m refusing to admit to people that it hurts me more than I let on, especially the closer we get to the date. I didn’t want to do a first dance but I thought we could sing a song together instead and he never even let me ask him, all he said was something along the line about how he really can’t be around my mother and it’s not like I wanted a dance anyway, right?
I really feel like on both my and my fiance’s sides that our families are either spread out or falling apart. I’m not saying my happiness depends on that, but I do feel like this wedding business was supposed to be a happy time.
Post # 3
I get where your coming from on this because this is actually one of my biggest fears too!! So far only 81 guest said yes out of 100 which is pretty good but im afraid for the ones that have said yes and actually NOT show up! does that make sense? anyways, I get where your coming from I’m just trying to make the best of it i can and what happens happens we can’t really control it? :/
As for the people that have told you they are leaving after the ceremony I would personally tell them it hurts you. I would if it ever comes up and i don’t care if they get mad because its your special day and you want certain special people to share it with so for you to be hurt is understandable and they should know it hurts you!
Hope it works out for you 🙂
Post # 4
I’m freaking out about this because our first (only only thus far) RSVP was a no. FI’s cousin not attending because his step-brother is getting married the same day. Totally understand but now I’m freaking out about how much of FI’s family will pick the other wedding over ours! Fingers crossed not many!!!
Post # 5
Yeah…I’ve been getting more RSVPs, some are coming but their kids aren’t attending. But I’ve been trying to look at things from a more positive side, like I can now have room for my bridesmaid’s family in the budget.
Post # 6
This is our reality too. Granted we started out on the smaller side with 75 invitees but, 2 weeks to the wedding we are looking at 38 – MAYBE 34 if 4 on his side cant commit. I almost feel like “why are we bothering”. To add insult to injury, we estimated no less than 50 for our venue and if our guest count drops below 20% of that estimate (so 40) we pay a penalty.