Have any Bees had an SO get circumcised as an adult for medical reasons?

posted 3 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
2095 posts
Buzzing bee

I haven’t, but my mom once told me she dated a guy who was uncircumcised for about a year when he made the decision to get circumcised. She said it wasn’t a huge deal and it healed rather quickly but I guess after the healing process was over he ended up dumping my mom. I guess since he felt more “normal” (not to say uncut is abnormal but in the US it’s rather uncommon, especially when my mom was in her 20s) he felt he could do better? Or maybe it made him more confident to go after other women? Idk.

That’s the only story I’ve ever heard personally about adult circumcision from a woman’s perspective.

Post # 5
1371 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

Luvdisc:  It seems you are worried if this will negatively affect your sex life. Although not for medical reasons, I had two friends decide in college that they wanted to get circumcised, both for different personal reasons. One was in a long term relationship, the other not. The one who was in a long term relationship in due to get married to the same girl in a couple of months. Did not impact their sex at all. The other one is kind of a player… and continues to be so.

I don’t think it’ll negatively impact your sex life, or how it feels to you, or to him. As far as you liking the way it looks, it’s not on his face, it’s not like he’s having a nose job. Not to mention,  it’s for medical reasons.

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 11 months ago by  MangoSong.
Post # 7
2095 posts
Buzzing bee

Luvdisc:  I definitely think having a medical reason for it changes things. In the case of my moms boyfriend, he was doing it purely for looks. He would tell my mom about the teasing he experienced when he was a kid and in the locker room or whatever people would see his penis, or the reactions from women who had never been with an uncircumsized man and would be unwilling to touch him or whatever. So I guess he saved up the money to have it done and decided to do it just to look like all the other guys out there. 

That was her major reason for thinking that his getting circumsized was the reason for their breakup. He was no longer ashamed so he wanted to get out there and get with other women

Post # 8
7759 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

I think it will be fine. His penis will probably be more sensitive initially after the circumcision. But he needs it medically, so I would just be glad that he is able to get the procedure that is medically indicated. 

Post # 9
7181 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

I have a male friend who had an issue similar to your boyfriend and was circumsized in his early 40’s. He said there was little difference for sex, but he did wish that his parents had done it when he was a baby so he didn’t have to have it done as an adult. But I don’t know if he would feel the same way if he had never encountered any problems.

Post # 10
2183 posts
Buzzing bee

Luvdisc:  I have a male friend who had to get circumcised as an adult, but he hadn’t had sex before he did it, so I don’t know anything about the impact adult circumcision has on a man’s sex life. This friend did tell me that getting circumcised and then having to recover wasn’t fun (obviously) and because his dad also had to get circumcised as an adult, and that, in his opinion, he wished that his parents had just done it when he was a baby and that they should have been aware that this was a possibility due to his dad’s situation.

I will also say that I have an ex boyfriend who had trouble with his foreskin retracting and it was a negative in our sex life and also his personal hygiene. I encouraged him to give stretching a try, but he wasn’t very enthusiastic about it. A few months after suggesting the stretching he told me he had given it a good try,  but there wasn’t any progress. I hope he has figured out a way to deal with his foreskin issues because it seemed like an unecessary source of stress for him. 

Post # 11
2183 posts
Buzzing bee

Maybe this could help: 

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3042320/ These men seemed to have more sensitivity and an easier time reaching orgasm post-circumcision. The study was done with 2,784 participants–that’s not insignificant.

http://www.mgmbill.org/kimpangstudy.pdf In this study, many men reported decreased masturbatory and sexual satisfaction after circumcision. 

I haven’t read or looked closely at the methods sections of the studies, so I haven’t evaluated them to see if they’re good or not. But one thing that sticks out is why is the Dept of Physics and Astronomy doing study #2? That seems bizarre.

Leave a comment

Get our weekly roundup of the best of Weddingbee.
I agree to receive emails from the site. I can withdraw my consent at any time by unsubscribing.

Find Amazing Vendors