- 4 years ago
- Wedding: May 2014
I never thought I would have to write this post but here it goes.
I have three bridesmaids. Two friends that I’ve known since 7th grade and then my little cousin. I could have had more bridesmaids (my cousin’s wife, close friends that I have but I haven’t known very long, FI’s cousins, FI’s SIL’s…) but I thought I would chose my two longest friends and my little cousin who I am close with.
Well my Maid/Matron of Honor has been awesome. She is there for me without even having to ask her to be. She lets me vent to her, helps me with invitations, is planning me an awesome bridal shower, etc etc.
My other bridesmaid is a different story. She has completely stopped talking to me in the past couple of months. Everytime I text her about ANYTHING she usually replies with just “K”…if I text her about wedding related stuff…I don’t even get a reply.
So my Maid/Matron of Honor had the RSVP by March 1st on the bridal shower invites. Everyone except my other Bridesmaid or Best Man had already RSVP’d. Maid/Matron of Honor asked me to text her and see if she was coming (this was Friday night). She didn’t reply. I texted her Saturday. No reply. I texted her this morning…no reply. So I got on Facebook and saw that she has posted things multiple times since Friday FROM HER IPHONE…so I messaged her on there and asked if she changed her number. Here is the conversation.
Me: Hey! I’ve tried getting ahold of you since Friday…did you get a new phone or number?!
Bridesmaid or Best Man: No *her daughter* has been sick.
Me: Awe I’m sorry to hear that.
Me: Maid/Matron of Honor was just needed to see how many people were planning on coming to the shower. Are you going to be able to make it?
Bridesmaid or Best Man: I won’t know til the night before. I need to see what *her husbands* plans are and I will probably have to bring *her daughter*.
Me: Oh okay well since we’re on Facebook, can you just send that to Maid/Matron of Honor to let her know?
Bridesmaid or Best Man: I will tomorrow. My phone is dead.
So…she couldn’t text me back because her kid was sick…but she could post on Facebook all weekend. She couldn’t message my Maid/Matron of Honor because her phone was dead…but she was messaging me that very moment? What the hell? Also, HELL NO to her bringing her daughter to the shower. She is 4 years old and is out of control. It would be a nightmare.
My Fiance, mom, and Maid/Matron of Honor are all worried that she won’t even show up for the wedding and now I am starting to worry as well.
I am really considering asking her if she would rather come as a guest and step down as a bridesmaid. It just doesn’t seem like she has any interest in being one of my bridesmaids and doesn’t even seem like she wants to be my friend anymore. :/