(Closed) Have any of you made the successful transition from friends to being a couple?

posted 4 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee

Yup. That’s what happened with my DH. I was scared, too; it ended up being the best relationship I’ve ever had, I think in large part because we were such good friends first and really trusted each other.

I understand that not every story ends that way, but the odds are that if you treat each other well within your friendship, you will treat each other well in a relationship, whether it leads to a happily ever after or not. In my case, I’m so glad I “risked the friendship” for something more. The friendship was great, but our life together now is worth so, so much more than that.

Post # 3
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Bumble bee

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redmango :  It sounds like the friendship has already changed, as soon as he said those words and you went on a date it changed, I don’t think if you backed off now it could go back to the same as it was before so you might as well move forward and enjoy seeing what happens.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

OMGGGG I got butterflies from reading this! I love it!

I went to high school with a guy and we were very good friends. Then we went to the same college, and went from “just friends” to “friends with benefits” (thanks to good old alcohol – shoutout to the best wing man there ever was!). Eventually we made it official, and now we’re getting married.

I love it. We already knew each others’ families, we have the same friends, all my greatest memories have him in them. I don’t regret making that leap for a minute. And I agree with PP – now that those feelings are out there, it’s going to be impossible to go back to what it was before. 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

Kiss him already!!!

Haha I felt so happy reading your post as I remember when your ex contacted you. I think you should go for it, maybe this is exactly what you need in your life. And it’s not like he’s your BEST friend, even if you’ve been close.

Go for it! 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

Also when you said he brushed your hair off your face I got chills. Then it was drizzling? So romantic. 

Gah I’m such a sap. 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

Yes that’s how it happened with my FH. We hit it off really quickly and became best friends. I was scared of ruining this amazing friendship so I kept my feelings hidden for a while, he started making his feelings obvious and I gave in. I’ll never regret that. In our circle we’re seen as the perfect couple *brag brag brag* people would refer to us as relationship goals and such. And we’re so happy together, honestly I look forward to going through all of the ups and downs in life with him, even when we get ugly and wrinkly. I really feel like relationships that start off as good friends are special as hell. You have someone you can have fun with as a best friend, will support you as a partner, and everything in between, you have the best of both worlds. 

 

Anyway from what you wrote I can see a real spark there, go for it! Don’t live your life wondering what could have been

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

My Fiance and I were good friends for 3 years before we started dating. He was actually a friend of my ex (I know we’re such terrible people *insert sarcasm*). My ex treated us both terribly and my now Fiance told my ex he had a good girl and if he messed it up, Fiance would be there for me. And that’s what happened. My ex got more into drugs and cheated. I was done and my Fiance and ex barely had a friendship as they are polar opposites.

One night after the breakup, Fiance asked if I wanted to go out with him and another friend of ours the next day and it ended up being just us as our friend couldn’t go. (Everyone had told us we would be perfect for each other but we were never single at the same time) We hit it off immediately. And now we’re engaged so… sorry for the long post but yes it does happen! We’ve never been happier!

Good luck bee!

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee

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redmango : I’m marrying my best friend. laughing It’s crazy to think we may have never even got together if it wasn’t for a job offer I got that would require me to move overseas. He asked me to stay and we’ve been together ever since.

We loved each other for the people we are before anything romantic happened so I think that’s why our bond is so strong. We would have taken a bullet for each other before we got together so we know what we have now is unbreakable.

Post # 10
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: January 2017

So I’ve known my husband since we were 10, we dated for 6 years before getting engaged and 7 before getting married, been married for almost a year now. It’s been a total of 17 years now. We have a mutual best friend that was afraid of what would happen if he and I broke up. We sat down and dicussed it and just moved on from there. Marrying my best friend was the best thing I have ever done in my life. It’s awesome.ย 

Post # 13
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Busy bee

“But I am scared shitless.  I said I am afraid of losing our friendship if things don’t work out; he said not to think that way, that we need to take chances in life.  “

I had a few relationships with “best friends”. I was afraid of that too, but I decided that I’d rather risk it and not have what-ifs. I lost a couple of really good friends that way, in that we are no longer as close as before, but the experiences and lessons I learnt from them are worth it. I agree that we need to take chances in life. 

I had a male best friend who I never see as a romantic interest but who was there for me for 2 years. One day something happened and he stopped talking to me and now we don’t even reach out to each other anymore. It hurt because we were so close for quite some time and he chose to leave our friendship. Just wanted to say that friendships can end for many different reasons so it’s not like your friendship with him is for life if you don’t become a couple!

My Fiance was a really close friend for 6 months. Nothing too long, but it did make me afraid of losing him if we ever break up as I had gotten used to him being around. But I decided that I love him too much to “just be friends” forever. Personally I think that the thought of our friendship fading away is much scarier.

Post # 14
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Worker bee

Lovely story ๐Ÿ™‚

My Fiance and I met in high school and we were in the same friends circle for a long time. We werent particularly close until I moved abroad for Uni and he eventually became the only one from our group I kept in touch with. We PM-ed and sent each other silly jokes, talked on the phone, etc for the 5 years I was away for school. Everytime I went home for breaks we’d meet up over drinks and spend hours just talking. We’d talk about his relationships, my relationships, everything. At the same time we were getting very attached to each other, and he became my best friend. There was also some weird sexual tension and I have to admit, I had a bit of a crush on him. Nothing serious, just a silly attraction, but we had completely different lives and there was chance of us actually being together, I thought.  

Anyways, I eventually graduated from Uni but stayed abroad for a job. I went home for vacay one summer and for some reason I knew we’d hook up. I thought it would be just fun, nothing serious. Maybe some sort of torrid affair. I had my life abraod anyways.  How wrong I was! We basically fell in love the first moment we kissed. I could never be without this man again. We moved in together a month after I moved back home after 7 years (to be with him). He proposed a year later. We are getting married next summer on our 3rd anniversay ๐Ÿ˜› 

 

 

Post # 15
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Blushing bee

My boyfriend and I sound very similar to your story. We were best friends for YEARS, but he was the one who was afraid us dating would ruin our friendship if things didn’t work out. But we ended up following our hearts and are now planning to get engaged in the near future. He’s my absolute best friend and my soul mate. I couldn’t imagine doing life with anybody else. I think relationships need to be built on a solid friendship first. This story made my heart happy! I wish you both the best! 

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