Post # 1
I totally lost it last night. I came home from work to find Darling Husband watching TV. He’s still off from school, with the exception of coaching football practice in the am. He is a super hard worker, and usually never gets a day off since he helps out at home on the weekends. But yesterday I came home to a kitchen that was a disaster and to find my leftovers half eaten, half thrown out. I was so frustrated because all I ask of Darling Husband is to rinse his dishes off and to set them on the sink. We don’t have a dishwasher in our new house, and I do the dishes 90% of the time, which I’m fine with. But he took the dishdrain things out, so food and crud was going down the drain and he hadn’t rinsed a single dish. I was frustrated, but okay, until I saw he had eaten my leftovers (chicken w/ peach glaze and mashed sweet potatoes) which he doesn’t even like! He threw out the sweet potatoes and never even called me to ask if I wanted them. And the garbage was full and nothing was done around the house, except he had filled in the cracks in the driveway so we can seal it before fall hits. I did all the dishes in my “I’m pissed off but I’ll just get this crap done and will get over it” mode. Then I decided that I would finally get this entertainment center that was left in our house listed on free cycle. It’s beautiful, but super heavy. Darling Husband asks if he can take it apart and I said no, because Goodwill won’t take furniture that’s not assembled because there aren’t instructions and you don’t know if all the parts are there. He said that no one was going to move it out of our house because they wouldn’t care to be careful. Then I really lost it. I told him to just get rid of it then, who cares if a perfectly good piece of furniture sits in a landfil for the next century. Certainly he didn’t care. And then I left to get groceries.
And what made it worse is that when I got back, he was really mad because I was mad. I really felt a little justified in being ticked off. All I ask of him, especially now that I’m preggo, is for him not to eat the last of anything, to rinse his dishes, and to put his clothes into the basket. We are better now and made up last night. I don’t know if I’m just highly emotional and can blame it on the hormones, of if I over reacted, or if I shouldn’t blame it on anything because I was somewhat justified.
Have any of you other pregnant bees lost it yet?
Post # 3
Sweetie, get prepared. I was a monster my whole pregnancy. I cried over food, got made over little things (especially food), and was just mean (especially when hungry). McHusband just kept snacks around so whenever I got really angry, he’d hand me something to eat. Sounds funny, but it helped. Good luck. Pregnancy is hard.
Post # 4
Yes! In the 1st trimester. Darling Husband wanted to go out with his friends one night and apparently I created a big dramatic ruckus. I just remember crying and shouting out loud— i need you!!! Not sure what for but I was very emotional and not normally so.
We have the same dishes arrangement in our house. I do them most of the time. For some reason, Darling Husband leaving food on the plate and not rinsing it bothered me a little before. But now that I’m preggo it bothered me a lot, so much that I nagged (I’d like to think, something I rarely ever do.) him i.e. repeatedly requested he stop doing that RIGHT NOW for weeks. I kept saying THAT’S NOT SANITARY. He was pretty good this week.
Oh and since I’ve been pregnant, I’m totally on him about taking the trash out now!! Every single time. To keep the peace, I just do it or tell myself that’s OUR responsibility so I’m grateful when he actually does it.
One more thing–you said he sealed in the faults of the driveway. To him, it might have been a big deal that is what he did with his time. I noticed this is how my hubby is ‘coping’ with the baby coming stress. It’s his way of showing how he is ‘preparing’ in his own way. But to me, this huge home improvement overhaul is unrelated or not priority so we used to argue. Now we’ve both mellowed out with time. Anyway, yes, I think it’s hormone/baby stress related and I’m sure your Darling Husband will come around as you continue to work things out. It’s such a PROCESS but will likely strengthen you all for times to come.
Post # 5
girllllll. I lost it like 2039483 times when i was pregnant. Hormones take over! haha good luck.. it wont be the last time.
Post # 6
In my third trimester I started yelling at total strangers! (They deserved it, hehe.) But I would chalk it up to hormoneez. Have a sit down with Darling Husband and tell him that you have a hard time keeping your anger in check right now, and you’d appreciate it if he could not do [these things] which are pet peeves right now and send you off the deep end. Explain that it’s just temporary, but you need his help so that you’ll be happy. And when you’re happy you make endorphins. And when you have endorphins, the baby gets them too. So really he’s doing it for the baby! LOL
I used that approach and it really seemed to help. Darling Husband knew I was just crazy and he let me get away with being less polite than normal. I was so glad when that feeling went away!
Post # 7
We had a very very similar situation in our house last week. Hubby isn’t working right now either and I’m pulling atleast 9 hour days sometimes longer and one night I just snapped about how I can’t do it all and just freaked out. It was a grouchy couple of hours for both of us but then we talked and moved on. Unfortunately I’m finding out its just one of those things that we’re both going to have to adjust to over the coming months.
Post # 8
Just sit down, relax, and enjoy the bumpy ride, lol. This is one of the many “cute” stories you’ll be able to tell everyone and blame on your hormones. Been there, done that. You’re absolutely normal, congratulations!
Post # 9
Yeah, we are defininitely adjusting to living in our new house. We’ve lived together for a while, but had always talked about making our own house more of a home and taking better care to be clean and organized. I am doing a better job than Darling Husband is right now, and apparently mixing that with my hormones isn’t the best. I figured I wasn’t alone, but it’s good to have that reassurance.