Post # 1
Not paying vendors or anythging, but looking up wedding dresses, local venues (or venues where you’d like to get married at), wedding bands, catering, etc. Please say I’m not the only one! Also, if you are planning/fantasizing, do you have a timeline on when you’ll be engaged, or no?
Post # 3
I do all the time. We have at timeline though and have bought the center stone. The balls in his court at this point, but I know its coming, so I plan away!
And by planning… I have the venues scaled down to the top 3 I would want to see, I know which style of dress I’m interested in, and may have a bajillion pins saved for possibilities.
Post # 4
- Wedding: December 2016 - Madame CJ Walker Building
Not really planning but scoping things out! I love looking at dresses and we have both discussed a few things like favors and wedding theme/styles. He knows my rule is simply give me at least 9 months to plan! lolol
Post # 5
@ccantics: We also have a timeline and the center stone (although that was an inheritance, basically).
Post # 6
@Onyx: I love looking at dresses! And my SO could care less about pretty much anything but the food. As I’m very much a “This is our wedding, not just mine,” person, I may have to drag him to look at venues with me XD
Post # 7
Nothing too serious but definitely looking. Know the style of dress I want, decorations, flowers, picked my bridesmaids, know my venue.
We went an saw our venue. Not wedding related we were there for something else but I was prancing around all excited and squeely going “that’s where the ceremony will be! That’s where we can do pictures!” SO just smiled and rolled his eyes.
No harm in looking! 🙂
Post # 8
I used to be big on the scoping and planning but SO really wants to plan too, so i wait for him. He doesnt want to plan without us being engaged.
Post # 9
Yes I liked to scope things out Dresses and favors mostly.
Post # 10
I did, but I’m no longer waiting! 🙂 I hated it though, because I could never really share my ideas without getting those weird “you’re not even engaged” looks.
Although, to be honest, with a 2 year engagement, I’ve gotten nearly the same looks every time I try to do/plan/settle on anything. I think the one comment I hate most is “You have plenty of time for that.” Let me be excited! 🙁
Post # 11
Guilty! I’m pretty sure I’ve found the venue and if SO doesn’t propose by our anniversary, I might just book a night or two there just so we can see it and I can bring it up in future conversations I’ve also researched dresses and dress styles and am forming a semi-custom gown in my mind. I’ve thought of favors, themes, color pallettes, bridesmaid/groomsmen styles, budget, pretty much anything I’ve thought of or seen on here. Nothing has been booked or bought, except my ring (that I don’t have yet! ) so I consider this “waiting” time, time for me to preplan and narrow down the options for when it comes time to actually say this is it.
Post # 12
- Wedding: April 2014 - Italian Villa
Everyone does it! I have looked at venue pricing (or at least what I could find without an inquiry), dress ideas, thought about color schemes… you name it.
I feel like pinterest was designed for waiting girls!
Post # 13
I have a date in mind and I’ve decided on DJ and photographer (based on working with them at other events). SO stated the proposal is coming before Thanksgiving (eeeek!), so I plan to start looking at venues after the holidays.
Post # 14
Heck yeah! I was planning about 3 months before the proposal, but I knew it was coming. We had already bought the ring and everything. The cool part was he has been just as interested in planning as I am! We sent our save-the-dates about 5 days after the proposal (the venue is on family owned property, so it’s guaranteed), but then ended up changing the date to accomodate my family. Oops.
Either way, we’re ecstatic and have had so much fun starting to plan. For the most part he has given me full reign, but I have been trying to input his ideas and give him control of things that would interest him like signature drinks, reception music, etc. It has made him happy to see me so happy and he loved torturing me by making me wait for the proposal! LOL
I have had a bunch of crap from my family about planning so early (he proposed on Halloween night), but I’m trying to just ignore their negative attitudes and focus on the family and friends that are truly excited for us and are letting me babble on about my plans. They are the ones who know I’m happy and want me to be excited about my engagement!
Post # 15
Yep we’ve been planning for ages. I change my mind daily though. I’m a gemini who can never make up her mind.
Post # 16
@Omgbunnies: Ha! I think I’d fall over in shock if my SO wanted in on anything besides the food!
@frommisstomrs. : I’m picky about who I tell my wedding fantasies to, for just that reason. I’ve told, maybe, 3 people outside of family- one of them is just like, “Ok. Little early isn’t it?”, another was in the same waiting boat before things ended up not working out, and the third (my best friend) doesn’t even have a boyfriend, but ever since she was a little girl she’s dreamed of a beach wedding with everyone in white and khaki, so she totally gets where I’m coming from on the fantasizing. We spend hours just talking about it!
@FutureMrsJohnson_:My mom wants my aunt to make my dress, so I’m coming up with ideas. If she can’t, though, I’ll probably check out Jasmine’s Bridal and have it made by them. I’m like you in that I’ve THOUGHT of everything, but booked nothing. I’m still in the process of designing my ring so I can pass the details on to SO for him to go to a jeweler and have it made.
@jenart: Three months? Eek! SO and I have decided on getting engaged by 2015, but possibly much sooner. Maybe I am jumping the gun a bit? XD
@Soon2BD-CBee : I’m a Virgo. It’s not that I can’t make up my mind, but I’m detail oriented and I want my fingers stuck in everything. I’m having issues deciding because I don’t want to let anyone else handle details- even though I know I can’t do everything on my wedding day! But I know if I don’t hand some things over, I’ll be an anxiety attack waiting to happen.