(Closed) Have Baby Before or After Moving

posted 4 years ago in Babies
  • poll: Before Moving or After?

    Have baby in home town

    Wait until after you've moved and are settled

  • Post # 2
    6518 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

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    ann12sam:  i actually had to do both! Either way, its hard! I was 3 months pregnant when I moved. We were living in a walk up building and I wanted to be in a bigger apartment, with a 2nd bedroom and not be walking up 4 flights of stairs!

    9 months into living in the new apartment the landlord says they decided to sell the house! IT was unexpected and we were pissed, but thats a whole other story. I had just enough time to have my daughter, recover, go back to work.

    We moved out and my daughter was 5 months old.

    It was hard being pregnant because I couldn’t do much! couldn’t lift anything or reach too high to put stuff away, plus you get tired really easily, so you can’t do much.

    Moving after baby was hard because you have to take turns entertaining the baby, then take time out for nursing if you are breastfeeding.

    You just have to decide what you feel you will be most comfortable with.

    If you decide to hold off on TTC until you have moved, will you have family around to help out with the baby? If you stay in your hometown where you have family and friends, it might be nice to have some help. I was glad I had the help around because we needed it. You are so scatter brained after having a baby, it was nice to have my mom and grandmother over to cook us meals to freeze for the first 2 weeks. 

    Post # 3
    916 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    Honestly?  I think it’s six of one, half a dozen of the other.  Both will be difficult but for different reasons.  I voted for having a baby in your home town because I don’t believe in putting your life on hold for the maybes.  And as many people on the TTC boards here can attest, getting pregnant isn’t always that simple.

    Post # 4
    37 posts

    Yeah, I wouldn’t try to plan this out to carefully – as in “have a baby in the spring” type planning.  No matter when it happens it might be a little difficult but you will make do, and getting pregnant may take you a lot longer than you expect (or you could get lucky and have it happen right away).

    • This reply was modified 4 years, 3 months ago by  pcloadletter.
    Post # 6
    84 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    Honestly,  I’d say it’s about the same with either situation and there’s really no ideal time. My husband is active duty military.  We moved five hours away when I was about a month into my pregnancy,  and will be moving back to stay with my parents about a week before my due date.  We’ll then be moving across the country when baby is about two months old. 

    Post # 7
    336 posts
    Helper bee

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    ann12sam:  I understand that you’re trying to weigh your options and I think that’s great that you’re planning ahead.

    Like other bees have mentioned, it’s impossible to plan your life around “when” you want to have a baby. There’s no way to tell how long it will take. It may take one try, it may take years- no one knows this until it happens.

    If you want to try to have a baby, you should just try, then see what happens. It sounds like if you were to get pregnant sooner than later, you’d have the support of family and the flexibility of your husband having more time to spend with the family. That sounds like great reasons to me! And if you had a baby before moving, you’d be a bit more adjusted to being new parents and probably will be able to handle being in a new place without an immediate support system a little better too.

    Honestly, if I had to choose, moving while pregnant is probably easier than moving with a baby, but again, sometimes you can’t control it. I’ve moved with a 6 month old and it was hard. I will probably have to move again with an infant and a toddler, which obviously will be harder but not impossible. 🙂

    Post # 9
    733 posts
    Busy bee

    Moving with little babies is actually pretty easy. They sleep a lot!

    I think the most important consideration is your medical care. When we were first TTC I was very young, healthy, and was going to have one of those Fit Pregnancy kind of pregnancies. It didn’t work out that way and as it turns out, I have a lot of health issues that affect pregnancy. You just never know. Where can you get the best medical care? Is it going to be hard for you to find a good doctor if you are new to the area? Are your options for medical care going to be better where you are now or in your new city?

    Post # 10
    7426 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2013

    I will always vote for having family nearby after the baby is born. We lived across the county when our first was born. We ended up moving back when she was 10 months old.

    Post # 12
    7426 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2013

    My post was supposed to say across the country, not across the county lol.

    Post # 13
    71 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    I would definitely suggest having a baby while close to family. We’re expecting our first child and I’m on the complete opposite side of the country from my family. Trust me, I’d love to have my mom around for day-to-day pregnancy/baby stuff. 

    Best of luck with everything!

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