Post # 1
This past weekend, I hosted a bridal shower for a longtime friend–I am one of her bridesmaids–at my home here in Manhattan. I am so utterly irritated and blown away by the bride’s attitude (several others were disgusted as well, and approached me about it!)…..so go ahead and grab that bag of popcorn and enjoy this vent/saga! But instead of me b*tching about how she treated me and her invitees, I’ll tell you exactly what happened and let you make your own judgements…Would just LOVE to hear your opinions… 😉
-Bride arrived 20+ minutes late to her own shower and acted very flippantly about it.
-Bride spilled red wine all over the floor. I did not want her to feel inconvenienced on “her day” so I said “Don’t worry, I’ll clean that” to which she replied–thick with attitude and an eye roll mind you–“Uh…well IT IS your place.”
-Bride ordered me to get her a glass of champagne instead of a second glass of red. No, not asked. Ordered. When I brought it to her, she whined “What? I don’t get an umbrella for my drink? Where’s my umbrella?!”
-Bride demanded that all guests be aware of the fact that she does not want typical gifts, that she only wants cash to put toward her honeymoon (either by cash, check or online through Honeyfund or something of that nature). Yes, she insisted on it being printed in the invitation. Several of the women were put off and brought her small gifts anyways, such as gift cards and dish towels. One of the women who DID donate cash online made the bride aware of the donation so she did not think that the guest arrived empty handed. Here is the conversation that ensued:
Guest: “I wanted you to know that I donated online. I noticed that some of the guests brought gifts and I thought that we were only supposed to donate to your honeymoon, so I didn’t want you to think I came empty handed.”
Bride: “Nope, that’s what I wanted. When did you donate?”
Guest: “Maybe a day or two ago.”
Bride: “Oh…welllll…I don’t get the notification that someone donated until a few days after the fact…so…I wouldn’t have known.”
Guest: “Oh I understand.”
NO thank you. NO appreciation. NOTHING.
I guess it goes without saying that I didn’t receive so much as a simple “thank you” either for hosting the shower (which was expensive, professionally decorated, fully catered, etc, but whatever. I didn’t do it for the “show” or the “praise”, I did it for a longtime friend. But now I’m wishing I had only thrown her a cheap pizza party based on her behavior and ingratitude!)
-Oh, and did I mention that she was on her cell phone the whole time uploading photos to Facebook?
-One of the guests gave the bride a check on the spot at the shower. One of the other invitees caught a glimpse of the gift and whispered, “What I would do with $1000!” … The bride overheard and snipped back at her, “Pshh $1000 doesn’t go far at all these days. Don’t you know that I’m trying to pay for a honeymoon here??” Classy, eh?
The bride acted like a certified diva the entire time. I am stunned and appalled, and really, I still can’t believe that it happened. I suppose I’m not THAT surprised, but I expected better. Pathetic. And just…wow. Vent over
Post # 3
How ungrateful can you (meaning her) be!?! That’s disgusting! I would wait until after the wedding and let her have a piece of my mind!
Post # 4
@bigcitybee: Wow. Cool friend ya got there. Sounds like my former Maid/Matron of Honor.
Post # 5
Whoa. And you’re still going to participate in her wedding? I think I would back out and cut my losses at this point. Who wants a person like that in their life?
Post # 7
Eurgh. She doesn’t deserve such polite and well meaning friends like you (you totally should have bitched more!). Not even a thank you?!?!? Was she brought up in a barn?
Post # 8
OMG! You are a nicer person than me because I probably would have gone off on her! How damn rude!!! After you opened up your home to her and all of her guests. Ugh I wish I could slap that girl!
Sorry you had to deal with that 🙁 You sound like a great bridesmaid! Wanna come be one of mine 🙂 lol
Post # 10
How did no one slap her? What a bitch!
Post # 11
Bees, I am beside myself! I would love nothing more than to back out of her wedding but I feel like my hands are tied. I know how she behaves is disgusting. I wanted to punch her in the face at her shower but I took the higher road. My friends and family are encouraging me to cut ties. She’s so ungrateful and has always treated people as a means to an end!
@MsNarwhal: How on earth did you end up with a Maid/Matron of Honor like this girl? So sorry!!! 🙁
Thanks for all of your responses thus far! It feels good to have gotten this off my chest and to be amongst all of you who listen.
Post # 12
Wow, is she being featured on this seasons BRIDEZILLA???
Post # 13
As you guys are now in the round of Showers, I’m guessing that the Wedding is near.
And knowing from your post that Etiquettte is important to you… I’m guessing that it is too short notice for you to relinquish your role as a Bridesmaid.
Too bad, because I’d certainly be considering giving the whole “mess” a miss.
Sad how Weddings, can bring out the worst in some folks. Guessing your longtime friendship has moved onto a NEW phase… one where you go your way, and she goes hers.
(( HUGS )) because I know sometimes parting ways with longtime frineds can be difficult…
But in the end, sometimes we have to do what is healthy for us… and this “bratty” Bride doesn’t sound like you to are a good match any longer.
Post # 14
@Megan2035: Haha sadly this is my first Bridesmaid or Best Man experience. I’m sure you don’t abuse your BMs like this crazy, attention-seeking girl.
@HeMadeMeWantTo: everyone was looking at one another in disbelief! I know for a fact that several of the guests wanted to strangle her on the spot but resorted to gossip instead. Sigh.
Post # 15
If anyone of the bridesmaids and the maid of honour doesn’t want to be friends with her anymore…think about ditching her on her wedding day! Imagine on her big “day” there is nobody? WOW that would make for a big diva of a reaction from her wouldn’t it? I pity the groom!
I suggest talking to her about these very incidents and see what her response is on whether she will change her rude and greedy attitude!
Post # 16
@bigcitybee: My Maid/Matron of Honor was my Boyfriend or Best Friend since 7th grade..but we had been growing apart for the last couple years. For the past year or so she has been acting like an entitled bitch. I had to kick her to the curb.