Have I made a cake faux pas?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Should I have given a gift?
    Yes : (7 votes)
    1 %
    No : (629 votes)
    98 %
    Maybe : (6 votes)
    1 %
  • Post # 166
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2015

    Wow. I would just say “I baked you an ornate cake that I would normally charge XxXX dollars for, are you really asking me where your gift is? You ate it.”

    Post # 167
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    602 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

     If you both initially agreed that the cake was the gift, and now she’s saying it’s not, then it’s not going back on your word to charge her for it.  I would send her an invoice to get the message across, even if you have no plans to collect on it.

    I’m also super petty so I’d also claim that the gift must have gotten lost in the mail along with the invoice.  Once the invoice is paid, you’ll resend the gift.   

    Post # 168
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    462 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2016

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    beebay :  oh wow your “friend” is a royal asshat! If it’s her Hubbie who you know her through maybe you should try talking with him about how much of a huge spoilt brat his wife is being, so he can stop her from embarrassing herself any further! 

    Also “a gift is something you can keep” I will be in her wedding pictures when she’s showing her kids, grandkids, satan…and they will all be fawning over that amazing cake you made for her. 

    If she keeps it up ignore her. You have the high road, nobody needs selfish self centred friends like that. If you are ever in a social setting with her again, everyone will have your back and she’ll only embarrass herself even more. 

    Im sorry you are getting so much earache because a brat can’t understand what a lovely thing you did for her! 

    Post # 169
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2017

    LMFAO. Im just here enjoying all the bees’ comments. My partner at work paid for my cake and one of my best friends is paying for the photographer. I am BEYOND grateful! I can’t believe people can be so rude. I’ve even told people your presence in celebrating with me means more than a material gift!

    Post # 170
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    2763 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    Yah, I’m with everyone else here: now’s the time to say “my bad. I’ll send you the invoice for the cake and get you a ‘proper’ gift.”

     

     ETA: and since you did double the flowers and everything else add a couple hundred more pounds to the deal. I’m thinking £1,300 sounds reasonable? And yes, get her a…dun dun dun…mixer bowl and spatula. Mwa ha ha.

    ETA2: the invoice should also include transportation costs to the venue of course. Plus VAT. And ‘staging’ costs too plz. 

    Post # 171
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2017

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    MeandYou :  THIS!!!🤣

    Post # 172
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2017

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    beebay :  girl you are a decent person! This is a nice way to put it. But I like other PP hilarious posts 😁

    Post # 173
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    930 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2017

    Wow this is insane. I’m so livid for you! I’d normally say talk it through and be cordial but screw the high road on this one! She deserves a verbal lashing from you on how you feel about this matter.  What an ungrateful little *****.  My best friend is inisisting on doing the flowers for my wedding and she is very talented but I made it very clear to her that those flowers would be her gift to me and I would still be paying for the flowers. Wether she actually listens is another story because she is a very giving person.  I would never ever in a million years even think to ask her for a seperate gift! People…I swear.

    Post # 174
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    350 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2017

    Dear god! From the description of this cake I can tell you I have NEVER heard of anyone except immediate family giving such a generous wedding gift to ANYONE EVER. Ugh I can’t tell you what I’d do to have a cake like that at my wedding haha. 

    It sickens my entire heart to know that there are people like her who manage to marry wonderful guys and receive insane cakes out there. We truly live in a fucked up world.

    Post # 175
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    482 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2017

    Like others said, you aren’t going back on your word. She agreed it was a gift and now she isn’t so if it isn’t a gift then she needs to pay for it. You kept up your end of the deal, she changed her mind. 

    Post # 176
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I can’t believe anyone would be so brazen and greedy. She is so in the wrong here.

    Post # 177
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    798 posts
    Busy bee

    As a side note – this is one of the most unanimous threads I’ve ever seen on WB. That’s gotta say something!

    Post # 178
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    1158 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2017

    Um, your friend is a dick

    Post # 179
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    3875 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

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    beebay :  Holy shit. I walked away from this thread for several hours to see that your friend has lost her damn mind. 

    Forget my earlier response, this bitch can get fucked. 

    In my earlier response, I did not see that this was a GROUP MESSAGE!!!!!!! Your friend is seriously out. of. her. damnnnnnnn. mind. Holy shit. I showed this to my best friend (the baker) and she was so outraged for you.

    If you don’t want to invoice her (which I understand, as I sincerely doubt she’d pay), I would suggest framing these text messages as her gift. But honestly, again, I’d just let her act a damn fool in the messages. Unfortunately, with someone this outtttt of her minddddd there is no reason to argue with her. If she can’t see what an absolute classless, disrespectful act texting you about this at all (let along in a fucking group text) is, then I’d just refrain from responding further. Although, a simple, “CrazyAssFriend, you’re being incredibly rude. I’m sorry that you had this lapse in judgement and wish you all the best in your marriage” and then stop responding. 

    (I am still literally so fucking thrown that this, and the crazy ass follow up message, was done in a group setting. This girl has some brass ass balls, my God.)

    Post # 180
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    Newbee

    Im petty so id send the invoice through mail addressed to her new husband with a note letting him know that since the cake is not considered the gift payment is expected. Then send a basic bitch gift like some towels and wash cloths with a note about how she obviously needs them to wash her stank attitude off.

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