Post # 1
I broke within my Fiance six months ago and have had to move into share accommodation, I have struggled to live month to month as my wage is medium but I live in a hugely expensieve place. I love my job To death and it’s amazing however I am very unstable in my personal life because my flatmate is bipolar and regularly gets extremely angry and has even threatened to kick me out several times. This scares me as I have no family and very few friends here so I would have nowhere to go, the kicker is that I have a dog, medium size, so I can’t live in a unit. I cannot afford my own place as rent is beyond my means.
Yesterday my lovely mum said why don’t I quit my job and move back hom with her and dad till I get back on my feet. So I resigned today. However now I am freaking out that I will not find another job that I love this much and that I may be making the right choice.
I am studying a masters degree to progress my career, so I would love to focus on this, but I have doubts in my head that’s should just stay where I am and suck it up with my issues.
In summary, I miss my family and friends, I love my job but sucky flatmate, can’t afford my own place and studying a masters.
Do you think I have made the right choice?
Post # 3
Yes actually. Did you plan on staying at your job after you finish your Master’s Degree?
I think what your mom offered is really sweet & it will be better in the long run because you sound super stressed!
I too had a crazy roommate. She got high flying drunk one night & kicked me out… it was HORRIBLE. Take care of yourself!
Post # 4
Yes. If you can’t afford your lifestyle, then you have to make changes. There will be other jobs, I promise You’re fortunate to have a mother who will let you move back to get you back on your feet! Good luck!
Post # 5
I didn’t plan on stayingonce I finished my Masters. I love what I do but jobs are few and far between, so I am doing it to slightly change direction and open up heaps of job opportunities.
I guess at the moment I am second guessing because I am just starting to make friends in the hellishly expensive city and I am worried I won’find a job again with this much freedom and love. Also because I will have no job when I get back home.
I have been looking for rentals for a while but the average price is about four hundred dollars above mya level and they still won’t take dogs.
Thanks for your help dolls.
Post # 6
@TinkyBelly: Poor you, that sounds really tough! Hugs.
I just wanted to share my work story. I run a training programme for people who have lost their jobs in the downturn and want to get into finance (why? Beats me!)
Anyway, a lot of them have found themselves in similar positions – jobs they loved but couldn’t sustain, companies that had to let them go, major life adjustments. It’s really hard. But we are at the end of one of the programmes now and every day I get calls from our guys who were totally freaked out and demoralised with kids, mortgage worries etc. to say they have been offered jobs in the sector. There are jobs, you’ll find the right one, even if it’s scary now. It sounds like you have a really great support network, and that’s absolutely critical. The one thing I would say right now that I’ve learned from this is LOOK AFTER YOURSELF. Stay positive and take the support you are offered. Your energy is so important. Good luck! Message me any time 🙂
Post # 7
You absolutely made the right decision. You will be able to focus on school much better when you aren’t stressed about money and a bipolar roomate. Moving back home with my parents before I got married was a great decision for myself as well. Even though it takes some adjusting at first but being able to save money so when you do move out again it won’t be such a struggle is such a blessing. Jobs come and go. I don’t know what you did but chances are you wouldn’t do that the rest of your life so I think its best what your doing. Good luck!
Post # 8
Hi lovelies again!
im stressing over my decision. I can’t help but worry that I am making the wrong or right choice,
my thoughts are
– will I find another job in the field I want
– could I put up with shit money if I stay
– my flatmate has been nice lately, so should I stay
– will I be able to afford to live and pay bills when I get back
i think I am very scared. Scared that I will regret my decision and I guess I am scared of change and letting myself down.i know my worrying is simply making things worse but I truly love my job, I was honestly surprised when they didn’t offer me more money to stay. I live in one of the most expensive places in Australia and my first job offer within the company was in a cheaper city but twenty thousand dollars more doing the same job, so it surprises me that I am paid so shit.
i also need to apply for student support to be able to pay my bills, if I don’t get approved then I am screwed and have no job or income when I get home.
help me make sense of my thoughts!