(Closed) Have i totally jumped the gun?

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

I can’t say with any certainty what is going on, but I don’t think you should begin stressing. I’d see how this plays out. At the end of the weekend if you still have these fears I would calmly address them. If you don’t end up spending the weekend with him, I’d like to know why he made reservations.

 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

A couple questions:

Did you check his inbox?

Are you busy this weekend or are you available? (like do you have a shift or any known plans)

If you know for sure he has reservations and is not inviting you, i would ask him right away. 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I wouldnt confront him now, because if he really is planning a proposal…and you have jumped the gun it would ruin everything and I wouldnt want that kind of proposal memory :/ I would see how it plays out. Maybe him saying he is going to a party is part of his plan?! Get the facts of the situation, watch for “clues” and see what happens.

 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

you two are much more rational than i am!

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Aww…please relax!!! You could casually ask why he made plans like that…

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Mollytov: Lol, dont get me wrong. I probably would be going nuts. But I try not to go off the deep end, however most of the times I do!

Post # 10
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Helper bee

maybe his friend’s helping him plan? Try not to say anything until Tuesday! How long have you been together?

Post # 11
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Sugar bee

Question: how do you know he made resos?  Like does he know you know? 

If he knows you know, or you can tell him how you know without gettting in shit then I would leave it alone.

IF you only found about about the reservations from a chance find or a little snooping, then I think I would feel around about it all a little.

He could be planning a super surprise.

I don’t know your story. Have you guys been talking about a ‘soonish’ proposal?

Post # 13
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Helper bee

I would be freaking out too! However, what if he is just trying to throw you off – tell you to drop him off or tell you he is going to this party? It could be? I know it is hard, but I would try not to say anything, like some other bees said. That way if he is planning a surprise it does not get ruined. If he comes home and it hasn’t happened and he is still being somewhat elusive about what he did this past weekend, then I would calmy say that him acting that way has you somewhat worried. Don’t accuse ya know. Take a deep breathe and try to get through it! I hope it goes well and try not to worry too much!

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I think you should probably take a step back and calm down. I don’t understand how the options here are proposing or cheating? Those seem like extremes, and I can’t imagine jumping right from one to the other if you do indeed “trust him completely”. I’m going to guess (hope) this isn’t the normal tempo in your relationship, so I would just take a deep breath here and relax.

There may be plenty of good reasons he has reservations, but since you snooped to find out, I don’t see how you can address it with him until he brings it up after the fact (if you are not going away this weekend). But I would mention some plans you are making for the weekend and see how he responds.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I second Sking.  I’m not sure how you can go from thinking it’s a proposal to thinking its cheating (if I thought my SO might consider cheating, I would not be on the waiting board).  Relax, you can always tell him you’re thinking of buying tickets for something and see what he says.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I think you should go back and read your post from yesterday…. it’s not like he just has reservations to anywhere… he has reservations to “A PLACE HE KNOWS YOU’VE ALWAYS WANTED TO GO TO” and he knows you’re free for the weekend.

IMO he’s having you drop him off because you won’t just be dropping him off… you’re doing whatever it is with him…. remember… he wanted to find your camera.

Sorry if I sound too optimistic for you, but ALL signs are pointing to proposal if you read both threads together IMO.

If you do want to test him, tell him your friends asked you out to a movie or camping or something and you’re planning on going. If he doesn’t want you to go, then you definitely have your answer :).

I hope it works out well for you – keep us updated and good luck!

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