(Closed) Have I totally lost it??

posted 6 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
280 posts
Helper bee

@mommyinwaiting5:  I know lots of tiny mamas some have delieveryed vaginally with a little tearing and some have had c-sections. You can discuss your concerns with your Dr and they can help calm you by keeping a close eye on the size of the baby compaired to you. I’m pretty tiny myself and am not worried about it. Our bodies are made to do this and with advances in medicine it should be fine as long as you have proper health care.

I have not experienced any of this first hand as i am 7 weeks with my first

Post # 4
1486 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Quite frankly, I really didn’t think about it until after I was pregnant.  That the baby was going to have to eventually come out.  And toward the end, I was really afraid of the whole birth process. So no, it didn’t magically go away…

Until I was actually in labor.

Listen, for me at least (and keep in mind, I am a pessimist, and a bit of an alarmist to boot) the worst part was all of the unknown.  I have read about the horrific labors/deliveries, so I know the stories that you’re afraid of.

But Darling Husband told me over and over and OVER to keep in mind that the people who tell their war story are the people who have something to tell.  Who wants to hear “Labor was easy, delivery was a breeze, and I had minimal recovery pain”?  That’s not a good story.

But, for me, labor and delivery, while not a walk in the park, were so much better than pregnancy.  Like x10.  The epidural (a source of fear for me) was magical.  Pushing was easy.  The parts I felt like I couldn’t handle were short lived.  I did have a 2nd degree tear (not as bad as you’re afraid of, but not nothing) and the worst part was being stitched up.  But even that was like…a 6/10 on my pain scale? Shocking, but not unmanageable.  The after part was easy too, because I thought it was going to be so much worse.  The bathroom?  For me, NOT THAT BAD.  It wasn’t nothing, and sure, that first poop was a bit of an ordeal, but the fear was worse than the actual act.  I never even used painkillers other than OTC the stuff after, and while they give you numbing stuff for going to the bathroom, I didn’t use that either.

Lastly, while you may worry about the labor the whole 9 months, there are so many other things that people worry about on the way there.  I’m not trying to add to your anxiety, but, for me at least, there’s a limit to how much I can worry.  I was the most on edge/stressed person for my 1st pregnancy, and here I am, doing it again.  (Less than a year later).

Post # 7
1471 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@mommyinwaiting5:  Oh man, this post makes me so sad 🙁 (Disclaimer: I’m still on a hormone high from delivering my son 2 days ago, so I probably wouldn’t be quite this emotional later). You should check out some of the birth stories here, I think you’re more likely to get a full range, from good to bad.

Maybe check out my birth story to get you started (http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/jess1483s-birth-story). 

It certainly isn’t all rainbows and sunshine, but I had a relatively pleasant experience. 

I didn’t write about it on that thread, but I did have a second-degree tear. Three days later, I’m in a bit of pain. It doesn’t hurt to go to the bathroom (although I will admit bowel movements are scary, but not painful). It does hurt to walk around a ton, but some strong ibuprofen takes care of it pretty well. 

And in the end, it is all worth it. My son is nursing right now and he just brings me such joy, it couldn’t possibly matter what happened during the delivery. It’s easy for me to say, I know, but please read around and get a variety of stories. 

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