(Closed) Have lost all my faith in life at this point…

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
270 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@MissThespian:  I’ve not read any of your previous posts, but just wanted to say please don’t give up. You can lose weight without doing exercise, yes it might be slower and frustrating, but it WILL happen. Then, you will start to feel better about yourself and this can make a big difference. I can’t really comment on your injuries but I hope you manage to retain your job, speak to your SO and let him know how you feel, maybe seek professional help also.

Post # 4
2576 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Oh, sweetheart.

I am so sorry to hear of your struggles.

Living with constant pain must be very, very hard. It is ok to have your down times, but you cannot to continue to bash yourself up.

Control the things you can. There is no reason for you to gain weight even when bedbound unless it is medicine induced (I know some meds encourage weight gain.) If you are not able to exercise then you need to minimise portion sizes, as you do not need the same caloric intake.

Your partner would, I am sure, argue that despite your health issues he has chosen YOU and loves you, so don’t doubt him.

I hope for some good news with your MRI. No matter what, knowledge is power, and when you know the full extent of what you are dealing with you can work on it.

Hugs, x


Post # 5
243 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@MissThespian:  First of all, *hugs*, everything’s going to be ok and I’m so sorry this is happening to you. I’ve had my fair share of health issues and I understand how fustrating it can be when everything you have achieved seems goes down the drain and is almost like being back to square one. From personal experience, stress make things worse and although it’s hard, try to focus on getting better. August is alo still a month away so there is time for recovery. I think it will be best to continue with the healthy diet and wait for the MRI results.  

Your SO sounds like a wonderful person who loves you very much and please don’t think for a moment that he should be with someone else, it’s you that he has chosen and loves.

Keep us updated on the MRI results and keep your chin up hun πŸ™‚ We’re all here for you πŸ™‚


Post # 6
2819 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

Oh, sweetie, my heart is breaking for you.

I just wanted to say that your SO obviously loves you, inside & out. I know it’s hard to think about being a “burden”, but you know what? You enrich his life in other ways, or else you wouldn’t be together. Please don’t loose faith; somehow, this will work out!

Just as a suggestion for exercising, have you tried swimming/water arobics? It’s generally easier on your bones/joints, as are things like pilates & yoga.

Post # 9
4429 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@MissThespian:  myheart goes out to you sweet heart i am so sorry you are going thru all of this.

i wish i could take away your pain. i cant but God can! turn to prayers. he always listens.

and he never puts more on our plate then we can handle. love your so mentally be there for him he loves you dont take that away from the both of you. that is true love for better or worst!

do not Deni him to be there for the one he loves YOU! you will get thru this keep eating healthy and work out when you can listen to your body. and from the way it sounds your doing great losing weight. this too will pass. we have all been there where we just want to throw in the towel ( and i dont mean suicide when i say that) we’ve just had enough of the bs but that is when we must find the strength Thur God and rise!!!! this will not bring you down God is on your side always. keep your head up and LOVE that man caz you got a good one!

he loves you let him help you thats what you would do if the shoe was on the other foot.

the day will come when you will need no physical help.

 be blessed!

Post # 10
85 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Chronic conditions suck, especially when they interfere with the way you want to live your life. You are most definitely not alone. (I have a couple myself.) Please don’t be so hard on yourself. It’s so, so difficult not to feel weak or like a failure when a condition sets you back, but you’re not. The condition does not define you. You have every right to be angry about it, but I truly believe it’s possible to eventually get to a place where it’s just another thing in life that you learn to work with/work around. This is a relatively new diagnosis for you, and there’s going to be some processing time and a learning curve to figure out the best way to deal with it. Don’t beat yourself up over that.

I was going to suggest therapy, but I just saw the post that says you have another appointment in two weeks, so it’s awesome you’re already there. πŸ™‚ Is there any way to bump up the frequency of appointments while you’re in a rough patch?

As far as weight loss, have you considered something like Weight Watchers, where there’s a built-in support community that can cheer you on and help you along? Or even a free online message board/weight loss site, like sparkpeople.com? These can be great resources, and there may be people who can relate and have tips and tricks to make things easier. 

Sending lots of hugs your way … 

Post # 12
243 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@MissThespian:  No problem πŸ™‚ and I completely understand how hard it is to talk about with your partner. I think we should give them more credit though cause that’s what a relationship is about – being able to lean on them for support when times are hard and vice versa πŸ™‚ and I’m sure he understands about the anger and fustration so don’t blame yourself hun. If it feels like the anger is getting to be a bit too much, I’ve always found channeling it in other ways helpful. E.g Having a good vent session with a close girlfriend/ or family member or even just getting some fresh air whenever you get the feeling of an impending explosion. Venting on the bee is also very helpful Wink 

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