Post # 1
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Blushing bee
i just posted on seating options and forgot to mention my idea of a kids (age 3-12) and a teen (13-20) table….i have lots of younger cousins and thought it might be good to have a kid table and a teen table table so they can all hang out with each other. but would it be hard on parents or better for them with having a kid table? will they be troubled by making sure the kids are ok? i think it might be a good idea to put the teen table next to the kid table so the younger kids have some supervision and adults dont have to worry. also i have 2 teen cousins on my moms side that dont know any of my other cousins. would it be ok for them to be seated with my other cousins or would it be weird for them?
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
The youngest children should probably be with their parents. And no 20 year old wants to be with a 13 year old. Perhaps you have one or two tables of the 10-15 year olds? Anybody older than 13 or 14 should be at an adult table.
Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
I am having kids tables too. We are doing a stationed dinner and the kids are having plated kids meals. Plus I want their parents to enjoy their dinner. I am including a card with the invitation that states to please prepare their children to sit separately from the parents. My daughter will be 14 at the time and I plan to enlist a few of her friends to be “in charge.” They will introduce themselves to the younger kids at the ceremony so there are no issues. The couple of girls that are in high school will be seated with their parents. I plan to do a kid’s dance(I work with children and there will be a lot of them!) at the end of dinner to get the kid’s on the dance floor and also relieve the teens of their duties. Parents will have to deal with them from there!
Post # 5
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Sugar bee
@ my brothers wedding, we had a kid table since there was a total of 11. Since the kids were of all ages(5-14), we basically created their own little area. Coloring books and McDonalds. The kids were well occupied until it was time to dance.
@ another recent wedding, the children sat w/ their parents and each kid was given an activity packet if they were under 12. So it all depends on how well the kids know each other.
Post # 6
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Worker bee
If the cousins know each other, then I think it’s fine to stick them together. I’d definitely keep the two teen cousins on your mom’s side with their parents. Someone had this arrangement when I went to a wedding when I was a teen and I hated it. Plus, the kids will just keep getting up to chat with their parents. Just my thoughts- but you know your family dynamics better!
Post # 7
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Newbee
I think it is wonderful that you are having children at your wedding. It;s a great opportunity for cousins to bond and make memories, I remember every single wedding I attended as a child and treasure the memories, I personally would not worry re the age of the teen table if they are all cousins, they will have fun.
Post # 7
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Helper bee
We are placing all of the kids with their respective families for dinner, however we will have an 8 foot table along the wall for kids activities! Since it’s a fall wedding, there will be faux pumpkins to decorate, coloring pages and other crafts that I’ve been picking up. The table will be strategically placed so that it can be seen from the dance floor and the majority of the tables–this way the kids can play and the parents can enjoy themselves as well =)
Post # 8
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Blushing bee
I am with
@Villeroy, for the teens it really depends on if they know each other.
Also for the younger children, consider how their parents will feel. Would they prefer to have their kids nearby or would they trust them to be on their own.
Post # 9
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Bumble bee
13-20 is a really big range.. that’s a middle schooler sitting with a college student. I’d probably go with 10-14ish instead.
Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
I like kids tables. It keeps them out of adult conversation.
Post # 11
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Blushing bee
all of my cousins know each other well and pretty much grew up together they are pertty much family in them selves lol…the younger and the older all get along fine as far as i know. and they all sit together at other events. just the other week i was at a party and they were all sitting together. the younger (3-10 were all playing and socializing with the older kids, the 11 to 14 were chilling in booths apart from the adults and the 15-20 crowd were mingling around with the younger and middle age kids and the adults.
i always wanted to have kids at my wedding. growing up i never got to go to a wedding and a reception till i was 14! so i like to give my cousins that “oooww i get to stay up and party too!” that i never had. and it does let my aunts and uncles and my cousins that are older then me have a good time and not have to worry about their kids.
but maybe i could break up the ages better. still dont know with the other 2 cousins though. and i was once at a party where they had a kid and teen table and the only other person i knew at the table was my brother and the rest of the kids were quite rude to us. so im hesitant to put them in that position. but i know my other cousins are welcoming and kind so it might work.
thanks everyone! 😀
Post # 12
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Busy bee
We are having an “activities” table where anyone (especially the younger ones) can go and colour but everyone is sitting with their families during dinner
Post # 13
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Bumble bee
I think if your cousins are close then it will be awesome to have them all together at their own tables.
I know with my family there is a huge age spread for the cousins but it is fun for us all to sit together and hang out. The older sort of look after the younger.
And if you think the others will be welcoming to the 2 that don’t know anyone put them with them. It would suck seeing everyone your age having fun and your with the adults. Maybe just put their parents a bit closer to the table the kids are at.
Post # 14
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Newbee
I wouldn’t say it’s necessarily true that no 20-year-old wants to be with a 13-year-old. Maybe overall it’s not the best pairing, but if they are related, that’s a different story.
I was initially going to seat both my 9-year-old cousin and my 10-year-old cousin at different tables with their parents, but since my brother and all of the our other 18-24 year old cousins were going to be together at one table (including both of the 10-year-old’s brothers), and since we’re a pretty close family anyway, I decided to seat them with the other cousins.
Post # 15
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Bumble bee
Are the kids close? My cousin did a “cousins” table for all of us on one side of the family. We ranged from 14-24 and had a blast just by ourselves. Our parents so aunts/uncles were at the next table over, but I seriously think we had way more fun than anyone else at the wedding because we are close. It depends on the family, I wouldn’t throw ALL of the kids together just because they’re the same age, that could be awkward and feel really kid table-ish.