(Closed) Have people made snarky comments to you about your wedding?

posted 13 years ago in Married Life
Post # 17
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2008

Oh yea, forgot to mention that we had our wedding in Ohio (where we are both from) and we ran out of cookies too!  We had 120 dozen for 200 people and they were still gone.  You are right, people in western PA and NE Ohio are insane about those cookie bars!  I was a little sad that we ran out, but come on..  120 dozen!  That’s almost 1500 cookies!  We had a complaint about that too, but geez.  How many cookies can one possibly eat??  I feel your pain on that one too!

Post # 18
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Sugar bee

I guess if someone wanted to complain to my face about the wedding that I invited them to I would prolly reply with a very casual:

"That’s a shame.  It’s also a shame that I could have used the $150 I spent on your food and favors to invite someone with more gracious manners…"

Post # 19
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Newbee

Ooooh snap MightySapphire… Love love love that response πŸ˜‰

I know it’s irritating when people behave like ungrateful children, but ultimately you didn’t host a wedding to impress them, you did it for the two of you. 

Might also make you think twice about inviting them to future events, parties, dinners πŸ™‚

Post # 20
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Worker bee

Like others have said, I wouldn’t let this get to you. It seems like there’s at least one or two of these people who just insist on making hurtful comments. Just brush it off like it doens’t matter becaue really, it doens’t. Besides, how many weddings even have a cookie bar? Congrats! I’m sure your wedding was awesome πŸ™‚

Post # 21
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Helper bee

The best thing was when my aunt, who thinks she is much higher class than she is, questioned why we would have ever spent money on a wedding planner.  Without skipping a beat, my uncle mentioned that perhaps it was so that when people (like my aunt) showed up when they had RSVPd ‘no’ I didn’t have to deal with finding a place for her to sit at the reception. 

That shut her up.  πŸ™‚

Post # 22
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Wannabee

I know I’m a little to the game but…one of our guests (very good friends of ours) posted a SCATHING review of our wedding and the location where it was held on Tripadvisor.  So, not only could we read about what a miserable time they had (thanks very much), but everyone else in the world can too!  When confronted, their only comment was, "We didn’t think you’d see it."  Nice.

Post # 23
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Bumble bee

I’ve been told I will regret not having a "real" wedding cake (no topper,e tc).  We are doing a cake bar that’s very cute/vintage.

I’ve been told it’s ridiculous that we are having alcohol, even though we are cutting off 2 full hours before the end of the reception.

 I’ve been made to feel bad about my budget (as extravagant) by a friend & my family, bc she thinks weddings should be $6K (mine is still half of our areas average, and we have the $!)    πŸ™

Post # 24
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2008

I think it is terrible that people say stuff about our weddings. Personally I don’t think someone fullly understands how important and how rude it is until they have had a wedding of their own. I learned that from many friends at work. I am no longer friends with one of them because before the wedding I was getting rude comments from her like "Why would you care so much about that" or "you are over reacting this is not that big of a deal" then I found out after the wedding that AT the wedding, sitting at a table with our friends, she was talking crap about flowers and other things. Then I heard that at work to other co workers, while I was on my honeymoon, she was saying things about the wedding. It is so uncalled for but, like I said she has never had a wedding or been in one so I don’t think she understands what it is like. It is still not an excuse and that is why we are no longer on friendly/any terms.

Post # 25
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2008 - Ten Mile Station

Before the wedding, I had a co-worker of Mr. Cookie’s (who is the sweetest woman ever) ask me if I was going to regret spending so much time and energy on planning our wedding. It was a really weird question because I was having so much fun planning. Why would I regret such a creative moment in my life? A few minutes into the conversation, as she was discussing her own wedding, I realized that the comment was less about me and more about her.

Unfortunately, there are critiques in every crowd. If you had an amazing wedding, don’t let them spoil all your wonderful memories. More than likely, the comment has to more to do with them than you!

Post # 26
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2008

<font size=”2″ color=”#99cc00″>ConnecticutBride</font> did you get married in the Hudson Valley?  I saw a similar review on TripAdvisor at the place where I got married, and I would have been horrified if I was the bride for that wedding! Pretty rude of them, they should have been far more tactful.

Post # 27
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Sugar bee

ConnecticutBride, you are such a better person than I.  If their only response was "We didn’t think you’d see it" I’d probably get their e-mail addresses and sign them up for every embarassing newsletter/website known to mankind.  If only so that for months they would have to unsubscribe to things like "Schizophrenic Weekly," "Tact for the Tactless," and my personal favorite "Making Yourself Bigger (By Making Others Smaller)."  Not that I’ve done that before…{{cough}}

Post # 28
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Wannabee

Not quite the Hudson Valley, but close, over in CT.  I do agree with MissCookie that it’s more about the other person that with you.  Our wedding was everything we wanted it to be (and more!).  They just disagreed with our style and I think were expecting something very different.  You can’t meet everyone else’s expectations – it’s impossible with so many guests! – so it’s probably best to try to put together the best day for you and the ones closest to you.  Which I feel like we did. πŸ™‚

Post # 29
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

My mom told me that some things (for instance, our wishing tree type guestbook) "Turned out better than she thought they would." Is that snarky?!  Family – what can you do?

Post # 30
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Bumble bee

I had my SIL tell me how she was sure not to recommend our DJ to a cousin who was getting married.  (All because another SIL thought the DJ palyed some song with questionable lyris.  Which he didn’t.  She was thinking of some "alternate lyrics" or jsut heard the lyrics wrong -I don’t know.)  But that bothered me. 

Also  a friend’s mother, who wasn’t at the wedding saw my pictures and basically said, "I know the bridesmaids aren’t supposed to look as nice as the bride but, wow." 

For the most part, I think picky remarks about the wedding/reception are due to people who either love to pick apart things about other people (just negative people), or people have particular ideas of what they think makes a nice wedding, and it differs from yours.  This can be especially true when different generations butt heads about what looks nice.

Post # 31
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

Unfortunately people feel the need to share their feeling about everything even when inappropriate. Mine started as soon as got engaged and started to plan. They would say your doing this too early, why you rushing this and that, why you mailing your save the dates so early, and so on. It got to the point that when someone would say something to my mom or my sisters they wouldn’t even tell me cause I would express my frustrations about people not knowing when to shut up. I mean if you feel you received your STD too early put it away till you think it’s acceptable to come out! I can only imagine what it will be like after the wedding. Although, I’m pretty verbal so I’m pretty sure most know not to say anything negative to me cause I’ll respond back. Maybe you need to start telling people that if they didn’t like something they should have left early or brought their own, hahha!

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