Post # 1
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Buzzing bee
Ah, okay, so I’m not sure what to do.
I’m going to take boudoir pics for the hubs this winter for his birthday next year. I’ve thought about it for so long, and I finally decided to just do it.
I’m also a wedding vendor and I’m friends/professional acquaintances with an amazing photographer that shoots with the exact style I would want. I say friend/acquaintance because we do hang out outside work together sometimes (lunch/shopping trips), and we also work a few weddings a year together. So, I’m worried that she would feel weird photographing something so, er, intimate, and that it would make things awkward while working together.
On the other hand, though, part of me thinks she’d be happy to do it because we know each other semi-well, and I wouldn’t want to offend her by going to someone else. Plus, as I mentioned, I LOVE her style.
So bees, what would you do? Any photographers out there shoot an “intimate” session for a friend/work buddy?
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
A friend, I’d consider. But a work acquaintance puts both parties in an awkward situation. If you have a falling-out with a work acquaintance, it’s far more damaging for them to expose such pictures of you (even if they were tastefully done boudoir shots) to the rest of your work acquaintances than if a friend had done it. With this situation, I’d personally have to go with either a very close friend or a complete stranger.
Post # 4
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Sugar bee
Maybe ask her how she feels. I wouldnt mind doing that for someone but who knows she might?
Post # 5
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Sugar Beekeeper
Its not like you’re asking your caterer to take your pics… photographers are professionals. I’m sure she would not see it as weird, it is her job and she would probably be honored. I’d just talk to her about it… tell her you’re nervous and give her an opportunity to say no if she thinks it would be awkward… but i’m sure it’d be fine 🙂
Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
Thanks, guys! Keep the opinions coming!
Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
@CorgiTales: Thanks 🙂 That’s kind of what I’m thinking, but I’m still unsure.
More opinions, please! 🙂
Post # 8
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Busy bee
I had FI’s cousin do it, but it wasn’t “that” racy so…
Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
I would ask her – be honest say “if you’re not comfortable I’ll find someone else” – ask her advice who. Tell her you thought of her first (she’ll like that compliment) but it’s up to her. As long as it’s nothing too racy then I’m sure it’ll be fine. She’s probably a professional and have done them before so it may be no big deal.
Post # 10
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Busy Beekeeper
I honestly think you are right in that she’d be thrilled you asked!
Post # 11
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Bumble bee
I agree with Corgitales. It won’t be weird, if she is a professional person. It’ll be fine, just give her an opportunity to say no if she feels weird.
Post # 12
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Newbee
I would, personally, rather work with someone that I know than some stranger. Too many creepers out there these days!! 🙂
Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
Thanks, all!
I don’t really want super racy photos because I know there’s a chance they could possibly, someday be leaked (yeah, I’m a little paranoid). Did anyone catch Mrs. Jelly Bean’s boudoirs? yeah, something like that is what I’m thinkin’.
I’m leaning toward asking her at this point.
Post # 14
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Busy bee
I would ask. Of all the people that you could ask, someone that you know that has the style you like, would have your best interest at heart in producing quality pics for you and your hubby. Go for it!
Post # 15
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Sugar bee
i am in the exact same boat! i have a close friend… that i trust… butttttttttttt…. its a guy! anyways we have talked about it before. i just dont think id feel totally comfortable have him see me like that! even if he were a female i dont know. i think id feel alot better with a photog i only have to take pics with and then forget about 🙂 i just dont want my friend taking and going through photos of me in a very vulnerable place like that… weird
Post # 16
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Newbee
If you are comfortable with her, ask her. She will be thrilled. Don’t be offended if she says no. It might be possible that if she thinks about it, she might not want to shoot them. She may not want that to ever be a sticky point in your otherwise good relationship.
My guess is she will be very happy that you asked her, and shoot them, and you will be thrilled.
