(Closed) Have some tact, yes he is MINE! (Vent)

posted 7 years ago in Babies
Post # 32
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@babypearls:  my brother is in our wedding party, and I am preparing for the numerous ‘is THAT your brother??’ type questions. People lack tact, I deal with it.

Post # 33
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

@babypearls:  completely agree. my SO’s white uncle is married to a black woman and they adopted a black child who’s now school age. he says SO MANY parents look at him strangely, or ask him who’s child that is. so ridiculous?

even if the child wasn’t biologically yours, they could still be your child!

Post # 34
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I know it can be frustrating – but dont let it get to you too much.  People say silly things all the time – especially when there are babies around.

Post # 35
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Honey Beekeeper

 I would almost always choose to make the mistake in the other direction and be corrected.  

Post # 36
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

People ask me all the time if my son is mine, he is spitting image of me. I wouldnt be offend I think its just one of those things people say .

Post # 37
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I know many mixed couples who go through the same thing–and I anticipate it also since DH and I are a mixed couple–I’m thinking our bb will rock a blonde afro! I’m hoping to be able to have a sense of humor when people ask dumb questions, and hopefully use it as a chance to educate people. Before I started dating DH, I couldn’t have even recognized mixed kids, now of course I can do so easily. It may be that some people just haven’t even ever thought about how a mixed-race child might look so they are curious. Your unique family is a blessing–don’t let ignorant people get under your skin!

Post # 38
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@babypearls:  I’m sorry this happened to you. People really need to think before they speak!

DH and I are also a mixed race couple so I imagine this is something we’ll encounter eventually.

Post # 39
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

People are so obnoxious and insensitive!  I’m so sorry- that would drive me crazy.

My daughter has extremely light blond hair with blue eyes and I am brunette.  When she was younger everyone used to ask me- “how did she get such blonde hair???”  Umm– the mailman- who do you think??  Her dad has blonde hair.  JEEZ people!

Post # 40
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

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Post # 41
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

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@babypearls:  People are so clueless. Even if they are thinking it, who actually says it?! Did you hear about the story of the dad and his three daughters in wal mart? Apparently dad (white) took his kids (half black) to wal mart and some lady thought they were kidnapped so she had security follow him home! This poor man was called outside by police officers insisting that they see proof that these children belonged to him. His wife said she was mortified and the kids were shaken up. What a mess! I dunno what’s wrong with people these days!

Post # 42
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

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@sunshinebee:  Haha, when I was growing up I always got asked where my red hair came from. I really wanted to say don’t you know anything about genetics? My red hair and my blue eyes are both recessive, so they came from both my parents! But I usually just went with my mom’s sister has red hair and my dad’s cousin has red hair.

I suppose I have this to look forward to with my children, as my recessive red hair and blue eyes will get stomped on by my FI’s dominant dark hair and dark eyes genes (he’s Indian, so not likely to be a blue eye or red hair gene carrier).

Post # 43
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

People, in general, are stupid and rude. I’m sorry.

Post # 44
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Sometimes it is a legitimate question, sometimes the person is just rude.

When I am watching my niece, people often assume she is mine and it feels awkward- I wish they asked instead of assuming.  If they ask everyone- no problem.  If they question beyond that- Rude!

Post # 45
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I don’t think that it is unnatural to assume that a child will look like its parent? 

At the same time, I probably wouldn’t comment like that…

Post # 46
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

This is terrible. People need to learn to keep their moths shut.

And what if you were the adoptive, and not biological mother? That wouldn’t make him any less yours… I honestly don’t understand what people hope to gain from prying

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