(Closed) HAVE to cover up my tat? Frustrated.

posted 8 years ago in Beauty
Post # 3
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think mothers have certain ideas/visions of what their daughter’s wedding day will look like, and can be just as obsessive/”bridezilla” about it as some brides can. I would just tell her you’ll do it and then conveniently forget the day of the wedding. Chances are she’ll forget too, and if she doesn’t, what’s she going to do? Tackle you and force a bracelet on? ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 4
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482 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

NO WAY!!  That ink is a part of you and is completely meaningful.  I completely feel you on the mom using the money to control- so unfair. 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I like the say yes for now and then conveniently forget on the day of!  Otherwise, you will likely have your bouquet in many of the photos, which would cover your hands.  As for the rest of the pictures, well your tattoo is important to you and means something!  I don’t think you should have to hide it…and really…it is a small tattoo by comparison to many!  Hopefully your mom is just being a bit weird right now but will come around soon… 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

hmmm maybe she doesn’t care about the half sleeve bc it will be covered by a shirt? Cover it with a bracelt, you could find one that doesn’t really cover it all that well. More than likely she will forget and you won’t have to wear it.

Post # 7
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34 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2009

you could tell that you’ll photoshop it out of any photos she wants, but that you’re not covering it up the day of….

Post # 9
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28 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2011

it’s aggravating when parents tell you exactly what you have to do. meanwhile you’re an adult.  I have a feeling my mom will want me to cover up my tattoo as well

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

That would annoy me too.  It’s something that is part of you and you’re proud of it.  You wouldn’t cover up a birthmark just because it looked unattractive to some people, right?

I tend to be very passive and a peacekeeper.  If the tat is on your inner wrist, no problem at all.  If it’s on the outside of your wrist, could you offer to have a cascade bouquet that would sort of cover it in formal pictures?  Or wear a chunky pearl Haute-inspired bracelet for formal pics?

I’m not saying you HAVE to cover it.  Just saying if I was in the situation I probably would because I don’t like conflict ๐Ÿ™‚  If you decide to let it show, I think that’s totally cool too!

Post # 11
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

My sister-in-law’s mom told her that she would not pay for the wedding if she got another tattoo. SHe got cherry blossoms across her back….her mom freaked out, but still paid for the wedding.

Do what you want to do. I doubt your mom will actually go through with the threat. She’s just using the “I have the money so I have all the power” card. Ridiculous.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

Now that sucks.  I will say, I am soooo not a tattoo girl and even I would say show that bad boy off with pride.  That’s kind of harsh of her to do…but like you said, she’s paying for things, so that makes it a bit complicated ๐Ÿ™

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@JessicaL: I have several tattoo’s – but the only really public one is the butterflies on my left shoulder, my mum’s fine with them, my FI’s parent’s however are not (in fact it’s really just his mum who minds) but hey – I’m marrying her son – not her – it’s not like I have flaming skulls tattooed on my chest – or swastika’s on my arms – it’s just butterflies that reprosent  major event’s in my life – (becoming a nurse – getting married – having my baby (that’s next on the list)) – and I’m proud for them to be on diplay!

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

No, many brides leave their tattoos untouched. No one has any right to force you to cover it since it is your body. If someone cannot accept it as being part of you, then that is on them to work out.

Post # 15
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

well considering that she is paying for the wedding, i believe she gets a say. if u want to do it your way then u have to pay for eveything, then she cant force u to do anything you dont want to know. when people offer u money it often comes with strings attached. if u dont want the strings then dont take the money

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Your tattoo is totally a part of you and I am guessing you are not trying to be some “pretend” version of you on your wedding day so yeah, why cover it up??

But in your circumstance, that sucks that you have to deal with such an ultimatum.  When I read things like this I am soooo glad my mom is not involved.  She’s a total control freak already, even when there is no money involved.. so glad in some ways that she could care less about my wedding! ๐Ÿ˜‰

Anyway, like others say, I would “forget” the bracelet that you totally intended to wear that day.  Be careful though; if you wear one on the other arm she might make you move it over!

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