Post # 1
ok. So i need opinions. Are tattoos that big of deal?? I got a tattoo on my wrist about 7 months ago. It’s about an inch big and a “A” for my daughter, Ava. It really means alot to me because she is truly my pride and joy. Apparently out of no where, my mother has a huge problem with it and wants me to cover it up with bracelets, make-up, anything she can think of! I told her i thought that was stupid and EVERYONE knows i have it why would i try and hide it? But she doesnt seem to be budging. Her reaction was “Well then you can pay for your own wedding. I’m not having THAT in the pictures” Seriously? THAT big of deal? It’s an inch! my fiance has a half sleeve on his arm but she never really seemed to care that much. I dont want to cover it up! I’m trying to think of a way around this.
Post # 3
I think mothers have certain ideas/visions of what their daughter’s wedding day will look like, and can be just as obsessive/”bridezilla” about it as some brides can. I would just tell her you’ll do it and then conveniently forget the day of the wedding. Chances are she’ll forget too, and if she doesn’t, what’s she going to do? Tackle you and force a bracelet on? 🙂
Post # 4
NO WAY!! That ink is a part of you and is completely meaningful. I completely feel you on the mom using the money to control- so unfair.
Post # 5
I like the say yes for now and then conveniently forget on the day of! Otherwise, you will likely have your bouquet in many of the photos, which would cover your hands. As for the rest of the pictures, well your tattoo is important to you and means something! I don’t think you should have to hide it…and really…it is a small tattoo by comparison to many! Hopefully your mom is just being a bit weird right now but will come around soon…
Post # 6
hmmm maybe she doesn’t care about the half sleeve bc it will be covered by a shirt? Cover it with a bracelt, you could find one that doesn’t really cover it all that well. More than likely she will forget and you won’t have to wear it.
Post # 7
you could tell that you’ll photoshop it out of any photos she wants, but that you’re not covering it up the day of….
Post # 8
I’m thinking im just gonna agree now and “forget” the day of!
@roseohseven: I wouldnt put it past my mom to tackle me and hold me down and cover it up lol ill tell her to bring it!
I’m just so frustrated!
Post # 9
it’s aggravating when parents tell you exactly what you have to do. meanwhile you’re an adult. I have a feeling my mom will want me to cover up my tattoo as well
Post # 10
That would annoy me too. It’s something that is part of you and you’re proud of it. You wouldn’t cover up a birthmark just because it looked unattractive to some people, right?
I tend to be very passive and a peacekeeper. If the tat is on your inner wrist, no problem at all. If it’s on the outside of your wrist, could you offer to have a cascade bouquet that would sort of cover it in formal pictures? Or wear a chunky pearl Haute-inspired bracelet for formal pics?
I’m not saying you HAVE to cover it. Just saying if I was in the situation I probably would because I don’t like conflict 🙂 If you decide to let it show, I think that’s totally cool too!
Post # 11
My sister-in-law’s mom told her that she would not pay for the wedding if she got another tattoo. SHe got cherry blossoms across her back….her mom freaked out, but still paid for the wedding.
Do what you want to do. I doubt your mom will actually go through with the threat. She’s just using the “I have the money so I have all the power” card. Ridiculous.
Post # 12
Now that sucks. I will say, I am soooo not a tattoo girl and even I would say show that bad boy off with pride. That’s kind of harsh of her to do…but like you said, she’s paying for things, so that makes it a bit complicated 🙁
Post # 13
@JessicaL: I have several tattoo’s – but the only really public one is the butterflies on my left shoulder, my mum’s fine with them, my FI’s parent’s however are not (in fact it’s really just his mum who minds) but hey – I’m marrying her son – not her – it’s not like I have flaming skulls tattooed on my chest – or swastika’s on my arms – it’s just butterflies that reprosent major event’s in my life – (becoming a nurse – getting married – having my baby (that’s next on the list)) – and I’m proud for them to be on diplay!
Post # 14
No, many brides leave their tattoos untouched. No one has any right to force you to cover it since it is your body. If someone cannot accept it as being part of you, then that is on them to work out.
Post # 15
well considering that she is paying for the wedding, i believe she gets a say. if u want to do it your way then u have to pay for eveything, then she cant force u to do anything you dont want to know. when people offer u money it often comes with strings attached. if u dont want the strings then dont take the money
Post # 16
Your tattoo is totally a part of you and I am guessing you are not trying to be some “pretend” version of you on your wedding day so yeah, why cover it up??
But in your circumstance, that sucks that you have to deal with such an ultimatum. When I read things like this I am soooo glad my mom is not involved. She’s a total control freak already, even when there is no money involved.. so glad in some ways that she could care less about my wedding! 😉
Anyway, like others say, I would “forget” the bracelet that you totally intended to wear that day. Be careful though; if you wear one on the other arm she might make you move it over!