(Closed) have to give wedding party gifts?

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Do you have to give your wedding party gifts?
    yes : (89 votes)
    89 %
    no : (11 votes)
    11 %
  • Post # 3
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    6394 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Paying for their meal is kind of expected since you’ll be paying for everyone else’s, too, so it doesn’t really count as a gift.

    You can get them something small and nice for pretty cheap. I would buy them a gift if I were you. They’re forking out some serious money to be in your wedding party, buying them a gift is a nice way to say thank you for that.

    Post # 4
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    1267 posts
    Bumble bee

    Lol – so embarrasing, but – when I got married I was very young, 23, and I had no idea that I was supposed to get them anything at all!!  So I didn’t take off the day before my wedding, just two weeks after – so in the pouring rain, I’m running around trying to buy something for them before the rehearsal dinner that’s happening in 1 hour!!  So I bought them keychains and a card! LOL – awful, I know!  My stupid ex never mentioned it to me and he got his guys these awesome yard glasses with a holder, which was a pretty cool gift for our age group at the time!  It made me look 5x more lame…

    Post # 5
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    1391 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Yes, I think a gift is nice. Even if they aren’t spending a lot of money they are using their time to be there for you guys. If it’s a matter if not being able to afford it, maybe a small trinket bracelet and a really nice thank you letter. I don’t think food/drink really counts :/

    Post # 6
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    4137 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    they’re spending A LOT of money to be in your bridal party. if you don’t buy them a gift, you should at least pay for their attire.

    Post # 7
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    569 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I think it would be rude not to get them a gift. They’re spending time and money to be part of your special day, so it’s a good idea to get them a gift to show your appreciation. It doesn’t have to be expensive, as long as it’s thoughtful.

    Post # 8
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    6998 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    I love giving gifts so this was something i was really looking forward to. I think its only respectful to get something for you wedding party – after all some will come in from out of town and have to pay for travel and accomidations – not to mention clothing and accessories plus chipping in for showers and what not. its expensive to be a bridesmaid! and dont forget the groomsmen too -tuxes arent cheap! it doesnt have to be a huge gift but something to show you that you are thankful and appreciate them. my girls got way too much stuff…they are spoiled bridesmdaids.

    Post # 9
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    6394 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    @totheislnds: I’m with you. Bridesmaid or Best Man gifts were literally the first thing I bought that was wedding-related. I’m still buying stuff for them :).

    Post # 10
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    3049 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 1991

    They are spending a lot of time and money to be a part of your wedding day. A gift is a token of your appreciation, regardless of the food or whatever else you will be paying for. It doesn’t have to be expensive, but it’s nice to give something.

    Post # 11
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    2790 posts
    Sugar bee

    I think that if you don’t give them a gift I would at least put money towards something. Whether it be their shoes, hair, makeup, dress or whatever else they may need you should contribute somehow. I know many an attendant who has felt scorned by not receiving some sort of a thank you.

    Post # 12
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    1041 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    Like PP said they are paying a lot to be a part of your wedding so if you dont want to get gifts, you should pay for their attire.

    Post # 13
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    42 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I would consider it REALLY rude if I was in a wedding and didnt receive some kind of thank you.  You are asking these people to spend their hard earned money and free time for YOUR wedding the least you can do is give them some sort of thank you – which would either be by paying for their attire or a nice gift.

    Post # 14
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    1668 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    A thank you is warranted.  Now how you define that is up to you.  It can be a gift – large or small.  A nicely written letter or card.  I am not sure why a meal wouldn’t count.  Not the wedding reception meal but I was in a wedding were the bride had a tea party for her bridesmaids.  I would consider that a thank you and a gift.

    Post # 15
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    5797 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2011

    So, not to start anything but you have another post up about how you think your bridesmaids aren’t responsive enough. Do you not want to give them gifts because you are annoyed with them at the moment? 

    Post # 16
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    1966 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I def think its rude not to give them a thank you gift. Its so expensive to be in a wedding & time consuming. It doesn’t have to be anything super expensive but soemthing nice to say thank you. My friend gave us little compacts with our names & the date on them. She had them engraved to say “thank you for making our day special”.

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