Have to put parents name when they aren't paying??

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 2
1194 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1995

We had both sets of parent’s names on ours.  My parent’s paid, but we just felt it was right for us to have them both on there.

Post # 3
3512 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

Your mother is incorrect, you absolutely do not have to put their names on the invites if they are not involved with the hosting. We just put “together with their families”, but both sets of parents and my grandparents contributed to our wedding. 

Post # 4
478 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2019 - Southampton, UK

Your mom is wrong. The invitation is supposed to be from the hosts of the party. If the bride’s parents’ are paying the invitation reads: “Mr. and Mrs. Parents request the honor of your presence at the marriage of their daughter…”  Since you and your fiance are paying, your name and his should be on the invitation, doing the inviting.

Post # 5
1757 posts
Buzzing bee

It sounds like your mom is a bit of a narcissist.

Post # 6
1242 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 1983

We said, “Please come to the wedding of Sarah Brown and Charles Smith.” And then date, time, place, RSVP.  It took us hours to get it that simple. We were giving the party; our parents were guests.

Post # 7
1889 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Pearson Convention Centre

We had our parents names on our invitations. They contributed to our wedding 

Post # 8
421 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

We didn’t have “together with their families” on ours!

Post # 9
311 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

We only put together with their families as both sides contributed but we still paid for the majority of the wedding but it helped include everyone.

Post # 10
106 posts
Blushing bee

I would be proud to have my parent’s names on my invites, even if they are not paying for anything. My name, daughter of ____ & fiance’s name, son of ____ invite you to …. you get the idea.

Post # 11
3802 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

Nope, we just put ‘MyName and MyFIance invite GuestName to their wedding…’ seems so unwieldy to be putting your names and all the parents’ names on there!

Post # 12
388 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

I really can’t stand putting the parents on there anyway so for me it’s an excellent reason not to! But we are all different. However the rules if we are following them, are they are not hosting the event so they do not get put on the invite. Simples xx

Post # 13
196 posts
Blushing bee

Since they are not hosting there is no need to include their names.

I would though, if I was hosting but it mattered to my parents. I’d definitely choose a format that honors both sides equally, however (ie his parents and mine). 

If your in laws are paying, on the other hand, I would be more careful. If they are hosting and want to be the only set of parents on the invites.. well.. it’s a lot of money to host a wedding.

Post # 14
1239 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2018 - UK

We only put our own names on the invites. Both parents made a contribution, but we paid the majority, we did all the planning and preparation, and we were the hosts. 

Post # 15
14142 posts
Honey Beekeeper

Many couples want to honor their parents for a lifetime of support. The hosting role is not necessarily about money. 

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