Post # 1
FH and I are working out the invites for the wedding, so I am trying to figure out how to word them
When I mentioned to my mom she said we have to put her name and my dad’s name on the invites, even though they aren’t paying for a single thing! I am not understanding why they should be put on there when its my FH and i hosting and paying for the event..
How did you bee’s word your invites? Did you keep it traditonal with the parents name’s as hosts, or just put you and your FH?
Post # 2
We had both sets of parent’s names on ours. My parent’s paid, but we just felt it was right for us to have them both on there.
Post # 3
Your mother is incorrect, you absolutely do not have to put their names on the invites if they are not involved with the hosting. We just put “together with their families”, but both sets of parents and my grandparents contributed to our wedding.
Post # 4
- Wedding: July 2019 - Southampton, UK
Your mom is wrong. The invitation is supposed to be from the hosts of the party. If the bride’s parents’ are paying the invitation reads: “Mr. and Mrs. Parents request the honor of your presence at the marriage of their daughter…” Since you and your fiance are paying, your name and his should be on the invitation, doing the inviting.
Post # 5
It sounds like your mom is a bit of a narcissist.
Post # 6
We said, “Please come to the wedding of Sarah Brown and Charles Smith.” And then date, time, place, RSVP. It took us hours to get it that simple. We were giving the party; our parents were guests.
Post # 7
- Wedding: September 2017 - Pearson Convention Centre
We had our parents names on our invitations. They contributed to our wedding
Post # 8
We didn’t have “together with their families” on ours!
Post # 9
We only put together with their families as both sides contributed but we still paid for the majority of the wedding but it helped include everyone.
Post # 10
I would be proud to have my parent’s names on my invites, even if they are not paying for anything. My name, daughter of ____ & fiance’s name, son of ____ invite you to …. you get the idea.
Post # 11
Nope, we just put ‘MyName and MyFIance invite GuestName to their wedding…’ seems so unwieldy to be putting your names and all the parents’ names on there!
Post # 12
I really can’t stand putting the parents on there anyway so for me it’s an excellent reason not to! But we are all different. However the rules if we are following them, are they are not hosting the event so they do not get put on the invite. Simples xx
Post # 13
Since they are not hosting there is no need to include their names.
I would though, if I was hosting but it mattered to my parents. I’d definitely choose a format that honors both sides equally, however (ie his parents and mine).
If your in laws are paying, on the other hand, I would be more careful. If they are hosting and want to be the only set of parents on the invites.. well.. it’s a lot of money to host a wedding.
Post # 14
- Wedding: February 2018 - UK
We only put our own names on the invites. Both parents made a contribution, but we paid the majority, we did all the planning and preparation, and we were the hosts.
Post # 15
Many couples want to honor their parents for a lifetime of support. The hosting role is not necessarily about money.