(Closed) Have to vent – my mom just got married!

posted 9 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Why are you upset? Shouldn’t you be happy for your mom….? This is not going to take away anything from your wedding day, so don’t stress!

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Do you have an estranged relationship with her? Why did you find out through your brother? I’m sorry this happened so close to your wedding.  

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2009

Yes, maybe you can clairfy why this is not a good thing.  I’m assuming that she had a small, intimate ceremony due to the fact that you didn’t know about it.  Also, if you didn’t know about it, how will any of your guests?

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

She can get married any day she wants, but it is a bit insensitive to get married right before you AND (more importantly in my opinion) not tell you beforehand or even after HERSELF. The only way I can see how this might affect your day is if you mom uses your wedding to spread the word about her recent I dos. If your worried about that I would chat with her beforehand and ask her not to steal your day by announcing it to the extended family at your wedding.

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I would just try and not make a big deal about it. It sounds like that’s exactly what she wanted to get out of you. So, if you take the high road, and not let her get under your skin, you won’t let her win. Just try and enjoy your wedding day without letting her interfere with her drama. If she’s really causing so much trouble, and your not close with her, did you ever consider not inviting her?

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Of course! Where else can you vent about wedding stuff, other than weddingbee!? 🙂

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I totally feel your pain. My Future Mother-In-Law is a huge gold-digging attention whore. When Future Brother-In-Law got engaged 2 years ago Future Mother-In-Law and her boyfriend took them out to dinner to celebrate and ended up getting engaged that night! Future Sister-In-Law and my Maid/Matron of Honor was furious. It really overshadowed their engagement and Future Mother-In-Law has been married 3 OTHER TIMES! I was pissed for her.

We had planned to get married and FMIL/FSFIL convinced us to have the reception in their backyard and offered to pay so we agreed. Not only did she call us 3 hours before the mailman picked up the invited to tell us that they couldn’t do it because they we’re “too busy” they had gotten married….after 5 days of non-stop fighting and break up talk. I HATE my Future Mother-In-Law with a passion.

The girls who marry the Fisher boys are no stranger to having the spotlight stolen!

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Yeah I would be upset too.  My question is did she not invite you guys (her own kids) to the ceremony?

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Well, I think you should tell as many people as you know, and ask your relatives to spread the word about your mother’s wedding in the next few weeks.  That way, it won’t be as much of a surprise and won’t get as much attention.  If she’s an alcoholic marrying another alcoholic, others may disapprove and I would rather shake my head in private than find out in public so that I can make my congratulations sound sincere. 

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

That stinks.  I can understand your pain somewhat though.  My mom decided to set a date and get married before telling any of her children..but all of his knew.. Her excuse was that she didnt want to “distract me from college” It just so happened that I went out of town that weekend and was doing noting productive…

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Wow sorry to hear about your mom.  But I just wouldn’t let it bother you.  If you act like it is a big deal then she’ll feed off that energy and it will become one.

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