(Closed) Have uninvited parents to wedding next week

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

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sassy411:  

Me too! Go us! 

Post # 18
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

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Miss.E.91:  Big hugs for you. I uninvited my mother to our wedding. It says really difficult & emotional decision for me but in the end I knew her presence would cause me anxiety and I want to be happy on my wedding day. I too have been repeatedly trying to reconcile & build a healthy relationship but I’ve realized it just isn’t going to happen. I don’t have any valuable advice other than please don’t feel guilty or let your family manipulate you with guilt. You will get to be your own family soon with your husband and break that cycle. And there are others of us going through similar situations, so even though it can feel isolating you aren’t alone!

Post # 19
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Bumble Beekeeper

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Miss.E.91:  Hugs to you.  Don’t let them bully you.  Have a lovely day.

Post # 21
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

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Miss.E.91:  In a way, I’m very thankful I have no siblings because I wouldn’t want anybody else to have my mother. There wasn’t as much backlash as I had expected, but I’m still nervous that something will happen at the last minute (her showing up or who know what?!). My immediate family was really supportive of my decision because they know what she’s put me through… I do feel very judged from my fiances family because they can’t understand how I could possibly get to the point of having such a horrible relationship with my own mother. 

I know your wedding is coming up quickly. Stay strong and focus on celebrating the love between  you & your guy! If you need a sympathetic ear feel free to PM me on here ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 23
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

It’s too bad that they ignored your request but I’m glad everything went off without a hitch. Enjoy your life without them and their drama and abuse. Congrats on your marriage!

Post # 24
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

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Miss.E.91:  

Sorry that they showed up. At least they didn’t cause any huge drama or attend the reception. 

Congratulations! Have a great marriage! 

Post # 26
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

It’s not unusal for abusers to be at their worst behind closed doors.  They often present themselves as “normal” in public.  That’s more likely the reason they didn’t pull anything.  I sincerely doubt that you suddenly got them to see the light.

They are what they are–abusers.  That won’t change.  

I’m sorry they showed up, just to assert themselves over you & make sure you felt powerless.  But, I’m glad they behaved themselves.

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