Post # 1
The good news is I found a venue that I love and meets all our criteria for capacity, budget, etc. This is not super easy since we are looking at a big guest list. The bad news is, the venue is booked literally every single Saturday in 2012! There is one Friday evening available in a month that would work for us.
I have looked at 5 other places in person and done extensive internet research on venue stuff and I have not found anything that remotely compares to this venue in terms of my personal preferences. Plus I’m sick of looking. 🙂
Another factor is that this would be a “mini” destination wedding, about 2 hour drive for “local” guests, and a significant number would be flying in from out of town. I am actually least worried about the true out of towners, b/c they would be more likely to take vacation time anyway, but obviously the local people will have to take some time off work that they otherwise wouldn’t to attend.
I don’t mind if fewer people attend, but I don’t want people to think we are horribly rude for having it on Friday.
Would love to hear any thoughts.
Post # 3
@jenniferjane:There is absolutely nothing wrong with a Friday wedding. If they want to be there, they will make sure to be there. Do what you feel is best 😀
Post # 4
Hmm…that is tough! I completely understand why you wanted to have it on a Saturday, but if you LOVE the venue and it works for you I say go for it! If I was a guest I wouldn’t look at it as rude, but that is just me, I am very go with the flow…and if you were someone I was close too or a close enough family member I would work it out to attend your wedding! Also, if there are people already flying out for the event, I doubt it would be any issue! Heck, even the people that are driving can make a weekend out of it! Hope this was helpful!
Edit: We are having a friday wedding! 1: it is usually cheaper and 2: Think of it as ‘yay! less dinners to pay for!’
Post # 5
I think Friday weddings are fine! We went to a Friday wedding in May and I kind of liked it because it meant we had the rest of the weekend free as well! Especially if its a semi-destination wedding, people might be able to make more out of the weekend!
Post # 6
If you don’t mind fewer people at the ceremony I say you should absolutely go for it!
Post # 7
Having weddings on a friday is actually recommended as a budget saver because a lot of vendors are cheaper on fridays (they are less busy and have more time to focus on you as well) I think that there can be a lot of positives to this, sure, some people wont be able to make it, but on the plus side that will also save you money. The only thing that would make me worry is if someone really important to me (like a grandparent) couldnt make it to a friday ceremony, otherwise I think it should work out for the best.
Post # 8
I struggled with the same exact thing. We found our dream venue but it was booked every Sat in June. I also was concerned about having my wedding on a Friday night too, but ultimately decided that people will be there and we booked it!! Now I’m totally excited and 100% happy with the decision. I say BOOK IT!
Post # 9
Really glad to hear your input ladies! Thank you! (And if anyone has dissenting opinions please speak up!)
Post # 10
I say go for it!
We didn’t, despite loving the idea of a Friday the 13th wedding. But too many people we knew wouldn’t be able to get the time off due to where they worked, so we stuck with a Saturday.
If it’d been a matter of Friday or none, we would’ve definitely taken the friday and sent the info out even SOONER! LOL!
I would recommend sending out info sooner than you normally would DUE to that…. it’ll give people more time to request the time off and save up for it.
Post # 11
I think you should go for it. I am having a Thursday night wedding for various reasons so I’m all for it!
Post # 12
I had a Friday wedding about an hour away from “home”, and I didn’t really find that too many people couldn’t make it. The ones that were closest to us made arrangements, and truth be told, it kind of saved us from having the random coworkers/casual acquaintances/dates that so many people complain about 🙂
Post # 13
I had this same dilemma back in August of 2010. I had dreamed of the particular venue for quite some time and they were completely booked the Saturday I wanted and they few prior and after. I went ahead and took the Friday (one month away now!) and am SO glad I did. Not only did this work out just fine for everyone, I have received major discounts because of the Friday wedding!! My DJ and photographer (both big ticket items) offered discounts because of the Friday wedding. Ultimately?? We can spend more of that hard-earned cash on a honeynmoon 🙂 I knew that if I booked a different venue, I would be thinking of the one I loved too much.
Post # 14
I say book it. You love it right? It’s your wedding. I have to be reminded of this all the time. Gotta be a little more selfish LOL. My sister had a Friday wedding (ceremony at about 4:30 and reception start at 6 or so). No one complained and apparently there were some awesome after parties. In various locations. Everyone who attended was able to party and then party some more and then sleep in on Saturday. So no pressure to travel back home on a Sunday feeling, let’s just say, less than fresh? Also, since it was late Friday afternoon my brother-in-law’s co-workers were given the afternoon off so they could attend the ceremony if they wanted to (he’s well liked at his job). Very cool!
Post # 15
This makes me feel much better! Appreciate all the input. I do think it would be fun to have the whole weekend after the wedding to unwind and spend time with the guests who wanted to hang out in the area.