(Closed) Have you?

posted 8 years ago in Intimacy
  • poll: have you ever allowed entry from the back door?
    once...not a fan : (123 votes)
    26 %
    every once in a while : (122 votes)
    26 %
    all the time : (15 votes)
    3 %
    never : (211 votes)
    45 %
  • Post # 3
    1359 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    @norab2684: can I vote “never”? 🙂 without getting into too much detail (this is a huge debate with us as well), an old boyfriend forced that on me, even with a reply of “no” to his question. Because of that, I’m super paranoid and stressed about it, and Fiance wants to “prove to me” that it doesn’t always have to be like that. He’s not super pushy, I didn’t mean to make it sound that way. He wanted the guy’s address when I first explained to him. But anyway – maybe at some point in the future but I’m when I’m comfortable – and that’s not looking like any time soon.

    Post # 3
    6892 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    What about “Nope, never.” That’d be my vote.

    Post # 4
    475 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    how about another option: no. I have not.

    Post # 5
    1269 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2011


    Post # 6
    2161 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I did when I was in my early twenties, and swear, I had issues after that.   I think the area tore a bit, and it took weeks to finally feel normal again.

    I would never do it again.

    Post # 8
    1810 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    We do it occasionally.


    @norab2684: What is the debate with your FH about?

    Post # 10
    3613 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    @norab2684: I voted but won’t divulge what I selected 🙂

    Just curious what your Fiance thinks since you said you’re trying to prove him wrong. Is he under the impression every woman loves and does this all the time based on the numerous porns he’s watched? My husband still hasn’t been able to shake that image from his younger days.

    Post # 12
    4354 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2013


    Post # 13
    3004 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2010

    My Fiance luckily got it all out of his system before we started dating. I think he must’ve tried it once or never wanted to because when I told him that I never wanted to go there he said firmly no way!!! Thank goodness! 

    Post # 14
    24 posts

    I voted every once in a while, but it was just with one ex a few years back, and I haven’t since. Back then it took a LOT of foreplay, and lube of course. It’s super psychological too (as is anything with women!): I needed to come at least once before we could even start fooling around back there, and I found that if my mind drifted to it/potential pain, I tightened up again. So lots of trust necessary, and patience on his part. Also depends on the size of him; with my most recent ex, there’s no way I would have gone there. I will say though, it feels amazing when you do it right (although it’s super painful when you don’t).

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