Post # 1
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Helper bee
I’m not necessarily looking for advice, but just thought I’d share this with you bees:
I’ve been doing REALLY well for the past few weeks in terms of waiting. I’ve actually stopped focusing on waiting and have been doing things for myself, enjoying my life and just being happy. It’s a fantastic feeling and I don’t want it to stop!
Well, in the midst of feeling so great…out of the blue my SO decides to reassure me about his promise to me about this summer and taking the next step. He wanted to make sure I knew that he would follow through. And I told him that of course I knew and that everything was perfectly fine. Of course, after this mini-convo, I got super excited inside and felt so giddy….BUT, then I got scared and made a conscious choice to NOT get sucked back into the crazy waiting girl! I’ve decided I’m not going to look forward to anything happening until it actually happens.
Is it normal for me to be this protective of my feelings? I wish I could let myself just feel the excitement without fearing that I’m setting myself up for disappointment. But for now what’s working for me is just focusing on everything EXCEPT what may or may not happen in a few months. So I guess if it’s working for me I should continue doing it!
How about you ladies? Have you experienced this before?
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
Yes, I have! I think I felt like this after we went to see rings and he made an entire slideshow to show the designers what he wanted.
I was also very busy with school projects and having a great time working on them. I just didn’t think about it at all for a month or so.
Post # 4
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Sugar bee
Yes- I was feeling like this about a month to 6 weeks before he proposed. It really helped me stay calm and focused but I did start getting anxiety when he got the money we had been waiting on… keep it up girly- I am glad he is taking you seriously. You are doing great!
Post # 5
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Helper bee
@armychica06: Thanks! You’ve been so helpful and supportive this whole time and I greatly appreciate it! I have just a little under 2 months to go, and then we’ll see if he follows through on his promise.
Post # 6
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Sugar bee
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@Shirinjoon: Yup! I had just been focusing on fun and friends and anything non-engagement related, then he goes and starts talking about it, telling me as long as the money is in place, he wants to buy me a ring this summer and get engaged. I had finally just gotten my mind off of it!!
Post # 7
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Helper bee
Exactly! Isn’t it so weird how when you are truly not focused on it anymore, the guy brings it up? And it sucks because it makes you think about it all over again and it’s so hard to go back to the carefree stage! Ever since mine brought it up on Wed., I’ve been having trouble getting back to where I was….oh well!
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