(Closed) Have you broken up and got back together?

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

My Fiance and I have. The beginning of our relationship was so dysfunctional. I can’t handle that, so I ended it. But about six months later we reconciled and learned how to communicate. It’s embarassing to think how terrible we were in the beginning. 

Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

We broke up twice in the first nine months. Once for two days, once for a week. Like the previous poster, learning to communicate well was the biggest hurdle for us. Together for almost three and a half years now, engaged on Christmas Eve.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

Nope but I almost left 3 times during fights in the first 2.5 years… but we worked it out. Relationship growing pains ya know….

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee

Not with my current SO but in my relationship with my ex-H we broke up 3 times in the first year – after that we learned to communicate and had 10 good years before ending things on good terms.

Post # 6
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Busy bee

I’ve said it’s over during fights, but then I would go back, or we would take a chill pill for like an hour and then have a grown up conversation lol.

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper

Fiance broke up with me the summer before I left for law school, saying he just couldn’t handle 3 years of long distance. We got back together exactly a week later.

Oh and I never let him live that down.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Ceremony and Reception: Historic mansion on the water

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ana2017:  Growing pains is the perfect way to describe it. 

My FH and I have broken up at least three times over the tenure of our relationship but each and every time the relationship got stronger as we either dealt with our personal issues and/or worked out whatever caused the rift.   We are super strong now and whenever things get a little “raw” we communicate and work our way through it while remaining together.  Those periods are when we say we love each other but don’t like each other.  LOL!

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

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jennab28:  My dad walked in on us without knowing I was seeing anyone… or having sex… Lol. So, that caused a huge rift and we broke up.. for 3 days.

One other breakup for only about a day, but he had been on adderall and we didn’t know that it was messing with his psyche. Been together over 6 years now.

I think breakups are healthy. It’s good to know that you both take it seriously enough to not stay together just cause it sounds nice.

  • This reply was modified 4 years, 9 months ago by  AddieNicole.
Post # 10
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Buzzing bee

I have had 4 men break up with me and later we got back together- and I regret every time I took them back! So my advice is to not do it.  When we got back together the power dynamic was always off, I could never trust that our relationship was 100% again or that they wouldn’t dump me again. Also after being so hurt getting dumped, I didn’t love the guys the same or as much as I did before.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

My DH and I broke up for a week. A month later we got engaged. This is certainly not the ending I would have expected at that time.

Post # 12
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: May 2016

My FH and I haven’t officially broke up but there was times when I wanted to leave after a huge fight. 

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

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jennab28:  Not sure if this counts but we broke up around 5 months into our relationship. Break up lasted 4 days. We hadn’t learnt how to voice being upset so it turned into a blow out fight. Once we got back together we actively worked on our communication of when we were unhappy and we have now been married for 4 years and together for 7. To be fair I was also 19 so my age may have a contributing factor to how I handled things… 

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Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

After dating for three months my now husband was a little too ‘intense’ for me, so I broke it off abruptly. About four months later we got back together, and the rest is history.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

My Fiance and I broke up when we’d been dating 2 years. It was during our final year of high school – we were both under a lot of pressure (from our parents and ourselves) to do well, we were both working close to fulltime at our casual jobs, and I was having all sorts of problems of my own (and, of course, I decided I could handle it all on my own and didn’t tell anyone). It culminated in a massive argument one day and we both decided that we didn’t want to break up but knew it was the best thing for both of us. We tried to remain friends, I ended up in counselling and life began to improve for both of us. Almost a year later, we decided to try again and we’ve now been together for another 6 and a half years.

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