Post # 1
I am in the group of brides who do not like wrist corsages, I also really don’t like the single rose/flower idea – I saw it and it just didn’t appeal to me.
So I read this online, and I think it’s a cool idea. I was searching for ways to make my wedding unique. Only thing, how do I do this to honor the mothers, without leaving the grandmothers out? I feel they’ll be hurt if I don’t give them flowers. If I do it pre-ceremony, the mothers will wonder why they don’t get it too.
Ask your floral designer to design two detachable floral sprays into your bouquet. After your father walks you down the aisle, just before he turns to leave you and take his seat, remove one of the special flowers from your bouquet. Hand it to him and give him a kiss. Let him know in advance that this will take place and tell him that as he takes his seat in the pew with your mother, he is to present the flower to her on your behalf.
Then at the conclusion of the ceremony, as you begin to make your way back up the aisle as husband and wife, stop at the pew where your mother-in-law is seated. Remove the second special flower from your bouquet and present it to her, along with a kiss, before continuing up the aisle.
Don’t tell the moms in advance that this will be taking place! It is the element of surprise which helps to make this so very sweet and special. There will not be a dry eye in the room…
Post # 3
My mom saw this at a wedding and loved it. She really wanted me to do this (begged me) but I thought that combining so many flowers made my own bouquet a little bulky and logistically, it was not easy to do with silk flowers. I had a MONSTROUS bouquet before i scrapped that idea.
I’m sure "sprays’ is the key word, not "mini bouquets" lol
Post # 4
That’s a neat idea! I love it! Of course I’ll techincally have 2 mother in laws (one is FI’s aunt, but she already calls me her DIL!) I like it.
Post # 5
I love this! I often wonder about the first person to do these things… do they get credit or did someone else "steal" the idea and claim it was their own? LOL
We’re giving our moms small bouquets instead of a wrist corsage (I HATE wrist corsages! LOL), and we’re having a Rose Ceremony which is sort of what you described only a little more formal. 🙂
Also, since only FI’s maternal grandmother is still alive we’ll only have to get one extra small bouquet (but if all the other g-mas would be there they’d all have one anyway! 🙂 ).
Post # 6
We are doing small bouquets in tussy mussies for the moms and g-moms. Wrist corsages seem too much like prom, and none of them want anything pinned to their dresses.
Post # 7
That is a super sweet idea! I think that would be a disastrous tear maker for my mom 🙂
I am doing tussy mussys for the moms & gmas. My Mother-In-Law (from IL) had never heard of them, maybe its a southern thing. But she loved the idea of doing that over corsages.
I am going to share the idea with a newly engaged friend, I think she’d love to do that!
Post # 8
EJS4Y8, I was thinking of doing "mini bouquets" too, but than I saw this idea! I have no idea what a spray is, I’ll have to google it.
Only thought is, I wonder what my dad will say when I give him flowers … haha. He’s a manly man, and he doesn’t normally carry flowers, hehe.
Dec09Bride: My fiance won’t do a boutonniere … I think it’s b/c he doesn’t want anything pinned to his tux, I probably won’t make my dad or his best man wear one either.
Post # 9
I like this! Very special!
We are going to do the small bouquets. I think. Future Mother-In-Law is a minister, so she’s marrying us, and it’s wonderful of course but it’s making the logistics kinda weird. Like, my mom really wants to do the unity candle thing, but we’re going to have to have Future Father-In-Law light it with her instead of Future Mother-In-Law since she’ll be at the front of the church (we’re at an Episcopal church and we’re using the other alter for the unity candle). Anyway, I think if I handed her a bit from my bouquet, she wouldn’t know what to do with it or where to put it. I’ll have to think on this.
Thanks for sharing!!
Post # 10
We did small bouquets (nosegays) of the flowers they carried at their own weddings. His mom had daisies and my mom had gladiolas.
Post # 11
I saw a wedding on Elizabeth Anne Designs where the mom’s had flowers to put on their clutches. I thought it was very different, really classy, and really pretty!