(Closed) Have you even been sexually assaulted?

posted 6 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 17
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

Yes.  Something similar to @amandasouthcarolina:  but luckily friends caught it and stopped it before it went very far.

(((Hugs))) to all yall

Post # 18
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Yes. I was raped and beaten badly by someone I do not know…they never caught my rapist. 

Post # 19
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

15 by a “friend” after being unknowingly drugged by other “friends” who thought it would be a good idea to capture on film and humiliate me. I was a good girl who saved her virginity longer than most of her friends only for it to be stolen that way.

Post # 20
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@AB Bride:  not everyone has.  I myself haven’t.  not by anyone. 

Post # 21
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

wow i’m so sorry that happened to you. were you able to recover?

Post # 22
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

@BellaDee:  It’s sad, but I just find it surprising.  I don’t think I know a single woman IRL who could say that.

I am happy to hear that there are some who haven’t been!

Post # 23
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@FutureMrsHallam:  I am 26 and never been assaulted, however my little sister (now 22) was the victim of an attempted sexual assault when she was 5 or 6 at our local grocery store restroom. My parents let her go in alone on our way out & there was a male staffer cleaning the ladies room. After a few minutes my mom went in after her and found the guy touching her inappropriatly, needless to say he was fired but I don’t think my parents called the police or pursued any charges. I don’t even think my sister remembers it at all (lucky girl), but ever since then I am keenly aware of the danger of putting myself in situations where I am alone and vulnerable and try to avoid them as much as possible… 

Post # 24
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@MsMeow:  +1 to your statement:

“I just want to say to all of you who have experienced such trauma that I really admire your strength, whether you’re coming forward like OP or just coping with this privately. You are a true inspiration.”

Post # 25
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@AB Bride:  what’s pathetic is that there are so many people out there who think it’s okay to do this to people! 

Post # 26
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

@BeckyS0:  That wasn’t attempted, it was sexual assault.  Unwanted touching like that is sexual assault.

Post # 27
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

@Laurenskii:  I agree.  So many times it’s just treated as a joke.

Post # 28
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I will come forward… as a Survivor

My sexual assault history is lengthy, and so sad for the little girl who I never really got to be.. And I learned after the first assault to never come forward – this will be the first time I have ever written about this. And it was much too long when I saw it all typed out… Here is the condensed version:

My mother’s ex alcholic Boyfriend or Best Friend used to sexually molest me and I never told her, for soooo many reasons.

I moved away from my family as soon as I could and still to this day I have a hard time being around my Mom, even though she still has no idea this ever happened. The Boyfriend or Best Friend died drunk years ago and I am not sad about this at all, obviously. Funny thing is, I don’t hate him for the abuse, but rather for the rift he has put between my mother and I… She has no idea to this day why I am intolerant and resentful of her.. She clearly has mental issues, and I still think that if I ever told her, then or now, there is no way she would be able to handle it. She would break.

It has occured to me that I should maybe explore therapy, but finding one seems exhausting.. It has become more apparent that I could use it though, if not just to help me repair my relationship with my Mom..

So thats my story.

I feel so bad for anybody who has gone through sexual abuse in anyway and I am so proud of people who find it in themselves to overcome it!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Post # 29
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

@Starling13:  Your story is so sad, especially because you’re missing out on a bond you could have formed with your mother. I’m so sorry this happened to you. Please, please, do get therapy and help yourself heal. (((hugs)))

Post # 30
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2013

yes. an ex-boyfriend raped me when i went to his house to break off our relationship.

Post # 31
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

@MsMeow:  Thank you! You know, it is sad… But now when I look at it I feel sad not for myself, but for the scared little girl who I know really could have used an adult like ME in her life.. As for the relationship with my mom, yeah.. that part is really sad, too.. Even though she will never know the truth, I would like to find a way to move pass this so that I can learn how to treat her more kindly..

I’m not sure what my motivation will be to find a therapist.. I know that with my mom aging a bit I feel the need to a little bit more. I also know that I probably need to clear out some of these cobwebs before I start to have children.. Darling Husband doesn’t even know about this stuff. Its pretty crazy sometimes when I think of these things.. Its like it never even happened.

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