(Closed) Have you ever…

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Have you ever ... ?
    Yes, blatantly : (1 votes)
    2 %
    Yes, but indirectly : (4 votes)
    8 %
    I've hinted at it... : (6 votes)
    12 %
    No way, NEVER! : (35 votes)
    70 %
    I've said something that might have implied it, but didn't mean it : (4 votes)
    8 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    5984 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: January 1999

    Let’s see…would it be considered a subtle hint if I e-mailed a friend congratulating her on her recent engagement and telling her how excited I am for them?  She replied asking if we received the STD.  (She was invited to ours, but couldn’t come…I’d think they’d invite us regardless of the “hint”). 

    Post # 4
    Member
    3281 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    OMG Fiance did this to one of his sorta friends. I was mortified for him

    Post # 5
    Member
    1757 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I’ve actually taken this to the opposite extreme. About a year after my husband and I started dating, he got a wedding invitation addressed to just him. Neither one of us wanted to bother the couple about him getting an “and guest”, so he just went alone. Partway through the reception, the groom asked where I was, not realizing he’d totally failed to invite me.

    Post # 6
    Member
    1555 posts
    Bumble bee

    I’ve jokingly said “Soooo, I”ll just mark that in my calendar” to some people, but I never expect to be invited.

    Post # 7
    Member
    2116 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    My dad was invited to a wedding a few years ago, his childhood friend’s son, and at the last minute he decided to bring my mom, my brother and I, looking back I don’t think the intended for him to bring all of us (my dad doesn’t live with us) and I kind of feel bad about it now!

    Post # 9
    Member
    3982 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I never have. But then again, I have been invited to every wedding I cared about. I don’t assume I am ever going to a wedding for someone I’m not close with. I let that be a pleasant surprise.

    Post # 10
    Member
    654 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    A couple of years ago an old elementary school friend of mine got married to a girl I went to summer camp with back in the day.  I probably would have been okay to miss the wedding until I found out they were getting married on New Year’s Eve, which was THE COOLEST idea I had ever heard in my life, and I just had to go.  Fortunately my maid of honour was invited and she asked them if it was alright to bring me along and they said yes.  I didn’t feel bad about it until about a month ago when I realized I probably wasn’t supposed to do that.  But they were great about it, and I AM actually friends with them (just not super close), and I had an amazing time so I’m trying to feel better about my faux pas.  I’m sure they’re over it.  🙂

    Other than that, no, I don’t think so.

    Post # 12
    Member
    654 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    @ddw: Haha, exactly!  I realized from wedding planning that I probably shouldn’t have asked them, but I didn’t know that at the time.  Anyway, their wedding was pretty similar to what I want mine to be so I’m glad I went, or I might feel REALLY odd about my plans.  To be honest, if the situation was reversed I would absolutely let them come to mine without a second thought.  It’s a party-style thing, not a formal sit-down, so why not?  The more the merrier. 

    Post # 13
    Member
    7296 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    well years ago before i ever knew anything about wedding etiquette (which i never knew about until after i got engaged actually), i said to a friend “I hope i am invited to Jane’s wedding). Jane is best friends with the friend i was talking to. So while i didn’t say it to Jane directly, i said it to her best friend, so its possible the message got back to her.  In the end, i was not invited and i was a little offended. when i started seeing other friends plan their weddings years later and saw how tough it was with guest lists etc, i looked back and decided i was not offended anymore and i understood!

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