Post # 1
Whether you want to be engaged/married to your SO because all of your friends are and you want to have a ring and wedding or whether its because you really love you SO.
I realized that I really love my SO and thats why I want to spend the rest of life with him. This makes waiting just a tad easier.
Post # 3
I told my SO i would run to the Justice of the Peace, live in a cardboard box, and use a cracker jack ring if he wanted to. I just want the world to know that we love each other and are committed to spending our lives together. Of course, the wedding will be fun, but that is not the reason I want to marry the love of my life! 🙂
Post # 4
I came to that conclusion the other night when I made the decision to not talk about getting engaged/married anymore, for awhile. Of course I always wanted to marry K because I love him so much, and I realized that he’s here, with me, and not going anywhere. Yes, I can’t wait til the day when we become husband and wife, but I realized that a relationship isn’t defined by one single day or event. It’s all these days that we’ve spent together in the last four years, plus the many, many more days we have ahead of us!
Post # 5
I wouldn’t have put 7 years worth of effort into our relationship if I didn’t plan on spending the rest of my life with him. Not to make it sound like we have issues, but you know how it is… some days take a lot of effort while others are just a breeze!
I always think of that episode of Friends where Monica and Chandler talk about soulmates:
(Episode 816 – The One Where Joey Tells Rachel)
Monica: Chandler, you don’t believe in soul mates?
Chandler: No. But I’m sure ‘tomatoes’ does.
Monica: I don’t believe in soul mates either.
Chandler: You don’t?
Monica: No. I don’t think that you and I were destined to end up together. I think that we fell in love and work hard at our relationship. Some days we work really hard.
No lie, my boyfriend and I have actually had this exact conversation.
Post # 6
I love that you posted this. This is something I have thought about in past relationships when it was nearing the point of engagement, and the thought that I was really more excited about having a wedding than being with that person forever. With my current s/o, we are soo excited about getting married and just getting to be with each other and to make that forever committment to one another. I wouldn’t care how we did it as long as I get to be his wife!! That is what told me that HE is the one!
Post # 7
@MapleMoose: I love those quotes from Monica & Chandler. I personally don’t believe in soul mates. I told my Boyfriend or Best Friend essentially what Monica said (I love you and want to be with you forever and work every day at our relationship b/c of that, but I don’t think soulmates exist) and he clearly got offended I didn’t think he was my soul mate…lol…if he wants to believe I’m his, more power to him!
Sometimes I wonder if I just want the wedding – because I’ve gotten to an age where it DOES feel like a competition or a race – the way other girls and friends talk about it and you see it happening to everyone else and you are falling behind…gotta catch up!
I won’t lie that that could be part of it, but more than that, I do deeply love my Boyfriend or Best Friend and think we have a wonderful relationship that could last long term, a mutual respect and a way of working togerther and handle problems that would make for an amazing family unit – I do want the special wedding, but more than that, I want to build my family with him and spend forever knowing he is by my side.