(Closed) Have you ever attended a wedding ceremony you weren’t invited to?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Attended ceremony without invitation
    Yes I have : (25 votes)
    16 %
    No I haven't : (98 votes)
    62 %
    What? I have never heard of that rule! : (32 votes)
    20 %
    Other : (3 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
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    Buzzing bee

    No, that is not acceptable.  At least not here in the US, anyway. 

    But, people do it anyway.

    I am pretty sure as a child I was dragged to weddings I wasn’t invited to.  But as an adult, no freaking way!

    Post # 4
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    3569 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    No and I never would, that is incredibly rude to the bride and groom. If they wanted me there they would have let me know. It is such an important day in someones life there is no way I would disrespect someone like that. I think people are more apt to try with a reception because they can amble in and disappear into the crowd.

    Post # 5
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    2849 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    No, and I never heard of doing that. It seems like I would have been invited if someone wanted me there. Weddings are very personal events, so I can’t see how it would be acceptable for people to just wander in.

    Post # 6
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I have. But, the MOG invited my mom and I verbally. Her son got married at the same church I’m getting married at and she said we could come and see how everything is set up. We sat in the back and left right away. The MOG saw us and was happy that we came.

    Post # 7
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    361 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    so I haven’t, but I am always tempted to when people post their wedding websites on facebook!

    Post # 8
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    3569 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I also like to add crashing someone reception is not only rude but it’s like stealing. If someone has a bar where they pay for each and every drink and the crashers just drink the night away the are costing them money!

    Post # 9
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    8515 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    It is not  blanket acceptable to attend a ceremony but if it is being held in a public place or a place of religious worship (not closed religions however) then you are able to attend becuase of the open door policy.

    Private property (whether it be a hired venue or a family members house) or closed religions (those that you need to be members to enter the house of worship etc) then sorry but you should not just show up!

    Post # 10
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    1733 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Once when i was 19 because one of my friends were invited and the boy I liked (FI) was going to be there.  It was a cash bar and I didn’t eat any food if that makes it any better Embarassed

    Post # 11
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    1310 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    I have totally attended wedding ceremonies without being invited – in the Catholic Church you are generally not allowed to have a private wedding Mass where you lock people out. It’s a worship service, a public event.

    I once went to Confession on a Saturday afternoon, much to my surprise and embarassment there was a wedding going on at the same time in the church! It was too late to turn around and leave by the time I realized it (the way the church was set up, I would have been basically walking through the ceremony to get out). There were four or five other people waiting in line for Confession so I just stuck it out and went to Confession!I remember really liking the music they chose for Mass. Her dress was just OK.

    This was a popular church for weddings. My own wedding was celebrated there two years later. I did look over during my wedding Mass to see if anyone was in line for confession but there wasn’t anyone there!

    Post # 12
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    2305 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2016

    I answered yes, because I totally have. There was a beautiful park near my house that I use to go to every nice Saturday, just to watch the weddings. I was obsessed with them even as a kid!

    And i’ve attended weddings that were in other public places. But I’ve never walked into a church or another location to watch a wedding.

    Post # 13
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    Bumble Beekeeper

    No and I’ve never heard of that being acceptable!

    Post # 14
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    2602 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    No, I haven’t personally, but I would like to point out that some houses of worship have an open-door policy regarding weddings. They allow public witnesses under the logic that everyone is welcome in “God’s house.” 

    Post # 15
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    3175 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I don’t know if it’s “acceptable” but it’s definitely “permitted” in most cases. I woudn’t be interested in attending a wedding of someone who didn’t deem me close enough for an invite, but I honestly wouldn’t care if someone came & checked mine out (doubt it, though, it’s in the middle of nowhere).

    Attending a reception you’re not invited to is a whole different story, though…

    Post # 16
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2014 - Ontario, Canada ♥ EDD- April 2016

    I kind of watched a ceremony in the park from a distance (but I wasn’t noticable at all and I was pretty far away!) I don’t think I would ever actually attend someone’s wedding without an invite, I find it kind of rude.

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